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i have one function in my household, bring home the money. i hurt my back a couple month ago missing out on alot of work. my wife had told me several time she help out the bills to give me a break, she has not help out and seams not to care if the bills get paid.
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A lot of men of our generation and generations before tend to base their self worth on their ability to provide for their family. Your injury interferred with that ability, but I don't see that as the root of your anquish... I see you at a point in your life where you wish to be valued for your other qualities and not just your ability to provide.
At the same time, your children (age?) may be at that gimmee gimmee stage that drives all parents nuts. (I once posted a sigh on my door that read "NO WORMS TODAY" as they felt like squacking baby birds demanding worms... cash worms, all sorts of worms.)
As for your wife, a lot of unknown variables there, too. Is she materialistic? Was she when she met you? How did you present yourself when you met? Is she just USED to you being the Great Provider, the one who takes care of everything? Does she have an education? Job skills? (If not and if daycare would be required, it may be financially better if she didn't work since daycare for more than one child and other costs involved with her working such as any clothing, transportation, etc., can exceed net min. wage.)
There are things you can do... he who makes the money controls the money... set up a budget that you can afford. Plan activities with your family that do NOT involve spending money... a day in the park, whatever. Even just hanging out playing board games or something so they will get to know you as more than just the Great Provider.
And you may want to explore your feelings in therapy, work towards defining a self worth beyond the realm of provider.