How old is she?

ok..well I havew to leave after this post.

I don't have advice for the depression, but you shouldn't feel embarassed this does happen...its just not often reported
if you feel you are in an abusive relationship...it would be best for you in the long run to leave early

I'm sorry

Abuse is abuse....and she is still responsible for her behavior, depression or not.

And she may have a seperate anger issue besides...

for sure, even if her hitting is because of depression, that in itself is a seperate issue she needs to find a way to get under control, or she shoulnd't be having a relationship with anyone.

i wouldnt advise anyone to stay in an abusive relationship. i know men get embarrased when the women are abusive but its just as bad as wife battering. please get help hun xx

I have said this before and I'll say it agian. Depression effects everyone around you. I agree, you shouldn't talk like that around her. You shouldn't talk like that period. It is your responsibility to get your depression treated . In the mean time it would probably be in her best interest to not date her. You are not available to be a boyfriend right now. You need to take care of your mental health first.

sorry bro. you don't need to put up with that. she needs help

I know what I said won't be popular And just cause we have depression, we have to be responsible for our behaivor.

Of course she shouldn't hit. But I don't think that is the actual problem. She is frustrated with being with someone who appears to have untreated depression. Either witch way this is not a healthy relationship.

Nobody deserves to be hit.I wouldn't stay if somebody was hitting on me. If you do decide to stay with her and she hits you again call the law. That will stop her.

I think Maine is talking about his own depression and not the gf's. Or am I wrong?

You should definately NOT be embarassed about her hitting you. It's abuse! It's wrong!

It's bad enough to deal with depression and have to deal with being hit also. That might be adding to your depression definately! It's been my experience that abusers do not change. I'd get out of the situation. jmo

Wow...That is so uncalled for hun..You do not deserve to be treated like that. No matter what the circumstance is. Have you been to counsling over her abuse? My advice would be to get out. From what I have expereinced as I was growing up..My mom was beat by her husbands and boyfriends. They always said they would never do it again.. That's a crock of crap. Don't be embarrassed..She obviously has some serious problems...It's not your fault..

wow, definately no excuses for hitting. She either loves you or she doesn't. Getting angry because your depressed is as bad as getting angry at you if you had cancer. Being depressed doesn't mean you don't deserve to have a loving relationship!!!!!

Bellastin: sometimes the unpopular answer needs to be said even if we don't want to hear it. I agree with you. We are ultimately responsible for our own actions, depressed or not. Having said that, don't put up with the abuse either.

Thanks Eudiamoni.... And yes hitting isn't to be put up with. I'm wondering though, is an event or a pattern? I just know how frusterating living with someone that has depression can be . Me for an example. Most of the time my husband is great. But there have times, by my own carelessness, that haven't taken care of my depression. And I'll tell ya, things weren't pretty between us. I feel it is my responsibity to my husband and myself to absolutely stay treated. As for cancer patients....most of them seek some kind of treatment.

Bellastina has a good point...there are always two sides to every coin. While there is no excuse for hitting, it is always necessary for each person involved to be responsible for their own behavior - including what was said.

Not too long ago, I hit a friend of mine, which was not right to do. However, I was online with a suicidal friend from DS at the time, and I could not exactly just say, could you hold on a minute while I tell my friend to soak his head???

He WOULD NOT leave me alone, so I finally let him have it.