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Should I let my husband go...He hasn't asked to leave, but I i feel do guilty for bing his ball and chain....He can ejoy life so much better if i'm not his respocibility. it wuld probsly hurt him for s whilr nut hr will ho on, feel fo guilty
deleted_user
deleted_user
does he want you to let him go, maybe you both just need a time out?
deleted_user
deleted_user
I would talk with him.. tell him what you are feeling... open communication....
deleted_user
deleted_user
hun, it takes 2 to make a relationship and it's a lot of hard work sometimes and there will be bad times and good times but it still takes teamwork.

Let him love you and do what he can to support you, but understand that there will be things that he can't do for you and vice versa simply because it's either not physically possible or that the necessary knowledge isn't there. But that's no reason to let him go......yet
sja
sja
It is so hard to give inputo n a thread like this. Can I ask a couple questions? Have you been married a long time? Have you been dealing with the depressions a long time?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Guilt is so hard to live with.
I think if he wants to leave, he will. If he doesn't, he won't. It's really his choice & he's making it by staying. We can't control other people not matter how hard we try. So don't take this harshly, but you don't really have that much power over another human being. No need to feel guilty.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
Does he seem to want to go? Or is this something you would like? Believe me, you can not guilt someone into a loveless marriage, so he must love you if he is hanging in there with you. If you think depression is bad from our angle, try looking at it from the spouses angle and feeling completely powerless to help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know absolutely nothing about your relationship with your husband, so I'll make a couple of assumptions. First, he agreed to spend the rest of his life with you, so that probably means he loves you a lot, even when you're not at your best. Second, you'd probably have a tough time just letting him go, since he'd actually have to agree to this proposal, or it would be just pushing him away. Third, he probably enjoys taking care of you and/or cares about you enough to want you to be okay. Wouldn't you take care of him if he was sick? Depression is an illness, and you can't get through it alone. Let him take care of you and try not to feel guilty about it. Wouldn't you do the same for him? And, if so, wouldn't you not want him to feel guilty? Talk to him and see what he thinks, but don't push him away.
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