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Bad friends or none at all

bebu
bebu
In the past few months I have done alot of "soul" searching as to the negative people in my life. Most just add to my depression and anxiety. I have chosen to cut these people out of my life - for my own sanity. My problem is that now, I have no-one left. My ex hubby and my parents, but everyone else just causes stress. I don't go out (agoraphobic) so can't meet new people. What now??? Should I still have contact with those from my past, even though they only make me feel worse, guilty, angry or sad??? Does anyone else have the same problem - and if so, how do you deal with these mixed emotions??
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I wouldn't stick with friends that make you feel worse
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i agree with evil101, those "friends" are making you feel worse? not friends at all. the problem is we folk that suffer from depression find it hard to not have approval of others, we also find it most difficult to stand our ground. it is not easy but i think you should be applauded for your strength and determination! Kudos
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No friends is better than bad friends
However if differances can be resolved its worth trying.
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Sometimes we come to a time in life when we have to clean house. This might be not seeing people that are toxic, or keeping certain relatives at a distance. Sounds like you're going through that transition - and now you just have to think of how you're going to meet new people. Start by writing your desires for yourself, your life. Then write how to get where you want to be. Then, baby steps. Give it some time. In the meantime - you have all of us here at DS. ;)
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If they bring you down they are not your friends. What about some meds? Can you take meds for anxiety to go out and meet people?
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*hugs* I am not sure what to advise my friend, but I did want to give you a hug

*hugs*
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Can you work on your agoraphobia? This could be the next step for you. How about a support group. And could be a great place to meet new friends.
bebu
bebu
I tried CBT for the agoraphobia, but had too many panic attacks and had to stop it. I am seeing a psych, but most times cancel the appointments - I usualy end up having attacks about a week b4 my appointments and just can't deal with them. I haven't even been to my doc in over 6 months. I just seem to be getting more isolated over time.
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Bebu, you have got to go to your appointments. And go back to your dr. You want to get better don't you? Sure you feel more isolated. You have gotten rid of your friends and aren't seeking treatment. Honey, you aren't being pro-active . I think you tried to make changes with getting rid of friends but if you are in the midst of a deep depression I'm not sure you can make that kind of dicision. Our thoughts can be very jaded when we are depressed. Please see your dr. You need to get healhy. Once you are healthy again, then make major desicions on who you want to be friends with. xx
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have you talked to them about their impact on you? if they care about you they might be willing to curb their behavior enough to continue being friends.

just make sure to not rid yourself of all of your friends at once. do it over a period of time, maybe, so that you still have some support/interaction with others.

i recently had to purge myself of several friends who were far younger than i, and younger peoples of often less patient, understanding, and tolerant of others, not to mention their increased pressures to conform, and the cruelty of youth.
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It's always hard to cut negative friends out because we find most of our "friends" are that way... it's the way of the world it seems. Keep positive and you will attract that right back! Hang in there!!!
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I have had to clean out some Old "Friends??" were they really that at all? I missed them very much but knew I had to do it, and there was a time when I had no body, due to this "cleaning out" of friends who weren't good for me. built new and better ones eventually, but it took a while
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I've been going through this recently. I think it is best to rid yourself of people who negatively impact you x
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