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I have to get this off my chest and I apologies in advance for offending anyone.
But for gods sake grow up! Take responsibility. If you make a mistake in life then accept your actions and as an adult use it as a lesson.
If your really sorry then don't do it again.
If you've hurt someone take the time to allow them to come to terms with it and then try to make it up to them. Saying sorry wont work, its just a word.
We all make mistakes we're only human and some cant be avoided.
But if your wrong admit it and rectify it.
But for gods sake grow up! Take responsibility. If you make a mistake in life then accept your actions and as an adult use it as a lesson.
If your really sorry then don't do it again.
If you've hurt someone take the time to allow them to come to terms with it and then try to make it up to them. Saying sorry wont work, its just a word.
We all make mistakes we're only human and some cant be avoided.
But if your wrong admit it and rectify it.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
i'd rather they said, you know what i'm not sorry, i stand by what I said!!! At least then I could respect them even if I don't like them!
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she seems to think that she can treat anybody like s**t and saying sorry afterwards will put everything back to normal. but within a few days she will have done it again!
I'm not sorry about them as the only one I ever hurt is myself.
I have done many things in my life that I knew were wrong and I had genuine remorse for afterwards. But "knowing" that I was wronging someone did not stop me from the behavior.
Why? Am I a bad person, evil, cold? Not really. The problem was compulsion. Notice that I say it was a "problem", not an excuse. The behavior is not excusable. But sometimes issues are buried so deep inside of us that we don't recognize our real motiviations for the things we do -- we act on compulsions that seem to temporarily ease our own pain even at the expense of others. The end result is guilt for the offending party, which only adds to the mess inside, and adds to the destructive behavior. Thus, we will continue this pattern of behavior indefinetly until we understand and deal with the motivations that lie behind the compulsions.
Some people are compelled to drink, some to do drugs, some to abusive relationshiops, and some to mistreat others.
Again, I'm not excusing the behavior. But when we simplify things to the level of "just grow up" we don't always see things for what they really are. People can hurt others, feel real remorse, but repeat the behavior over and over.
And if you keep repeating the behaviour knowing its wrong then there isnt really any excuse for it if its hurting other people.
I agree that "growing up" is the key. But for many people "growing up" has no meaning because we don't have the first clue what that really means. For some people growing up is just a matter of putting their partying ways behind them, paying their bills on time, showing up for work everyday and being, in general, mature. Those people are fortunate in that their mental state is healthy. For those who have deep seeded emotional issues, growing up is something entirely different. It requires identifying those scars, letting go of the hurt and anger, modifying your expectation of life. For many people, recognizing those issues and addressing them is the most difficult thing they'll ever do in their entire life. I spent many years paying my taxes, excelling at work, taking care of my house, kids and family, doing all those things that good, responsible adults do. But I had absolutely no idea what it meant to grow up emotionally.
No excuse. But not always as simple as we think.