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Anyone have any ideas for me?

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I've been in a wonderful relationship for over a year. It's a great relationship, we didn't become serious until last January. Everything is great and I love him a lot, but (yes there's a BUT), there has been tension in our relationship due to my depression.

I didn't tell him I've been fighting depression for several years now. It took me so long to get into a good relationship because of my depression. I've come a long way, enough to love someone and to let them close enough to love me I really don't want to lose him.

It's a little strange trying to phrase it..... okay let's just say that the problem is I feel so sick and disgusted with myself, that, the relationship won't grow if given then chance.. I'm not talking about sex, I'm talking about anything past holding hands.
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Due to the fact that you are in a wonderful relationship with this person...I feel that you owe it to them to be honest. I think I would rather be told of a disease such as depression than to believe that I am possibly be doing something wrong. Just be open and honest with the ones you love.
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take it slow if hes good enough for you hell understand, slowly increase your affection
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take it slow if hes good enough for you hell understand, slowly increase your affection
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It is always difficult but you say it as become serious enough for you to love him and to let him love you, so let him. You need to talk with him, tell him all how you feel put the ball in his court. He can't make any decisions until he knows the facts. If he loves you he will not only give you understnading but make you feel more comfortable and then, you might feel like taking it further. All i can suggest is that you talk until there is nothing more to tell and then play it from there. Answer his questions offer him patience and i am sure he will do more than the same for you. Love is about honesty and it is a 2 way thing and you both just need to communicate to survive. Explain your fears explain everything, you never know how much being so open might help. I wish you luck hun.
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I don't want to come off as damaged goods. I lost out on a couple relationships because I told them. I'm pretty good at covering up, but I'm just don't want to lose him or burden him. I am so scared :(
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pixie has it right on, just be honest and be yourself, if he cant handle it now, he cant handle it later. Just relax and be honest, its the best way...
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I've been in your situation honey, but recently have admitted my illness before r'ships commence.

If your man is a good guy he may be shocked but it may help him to understand your recent behaviour. A good guy will see through the stigma attached to depression and will probably want to help you given some time to get his head round it. Only a muppet of a man will just run away from a good relationship with a fabulous lady!!
You don't deserve to be with a muppet, so better to see his true colours sooner rather than later! xx
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The relationships you lost after being honest were not meant to be- From my experience, there is nothing more damaging than hidden secrets that could come out later.. Love is about accepting people for who they are.
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ok hun well i can tell u that from my childhood experinces that i cant let anyone close me at all. so well done for doing that in the 1st place. i think u sound like me wen i get close to someone im scared that my depression will scare them away. just be strong hun u know he loves u ok.x
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