ok let me start from beggining maybe it wil help someone help me. When me and my wife first got together it was like nobody else existed. We made love every day. I would walk in a room even if it's been 5 minutes my wife would run up and hug on me and kiss on me like she been missing me for years. After we got married the love making dwindled from every day to once a week. Right now it's been 2 months since we have had sex and it's probably been years since my wife has actually made love to me.5 months ago we brought into this world a beautiful daughter. She is everything to me. Between having a kid and working 12 hour shifts my wife's sex drive has come to a stand still. Before my wife sex never meant anything to me besides just what it is. Since i've been with my wife it means more then that to me. It's how i feel loved and apreciated. I completely understand what she is going through. Maybe not completely but enough to where i did my own reasearch and all that. i try to talk to my wife about it and let her know that this no sex is causing me to be depressed all the time and making it where i'm not getting any sleep. The only thing she has really said about it is it's not me it's her that she just doesn't feel like it and so on and so forth. She has even told me to go sleep with other females but i can't bring myself to that. I want more then just sex. i want to feel that oneness like we used to when we first got together. It seems like she doesn't even care that i'm depressed all the time. I don't know what else to do. do i just somehow get myslef on a mindframe that sex doesn't mean anything to me anymore. that all the sex we have had meant nothing. By the way she was my first. Do i just forget that sex means anything. I can't sleep at night because of all this. I try writing to myself and dispose of the words i have created and it helps some. I tried talking to my wife she seems not to care. I'm not trying drugs legal or illegal to drown everything out. I used to do that a long time ago and it doesn't help at least the illegal one's don't. I've been clean for 5 years now and not going back down that road again.It don't work. Well if anyone has any advice please share with me i don't know what else to do. Thanks for everyone's time on this and any advice will be appreciated.
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