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AM I WORTHY

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THERE ARE TIMES THAT I AK, MY SELF THIS QUESTION MY, HUSBAND SAYS THAT I AM JUST FEELIMG SOORY FOR MY SELF. I SAW MY MITHER TODAY FOR THE FIRST TIME IN SEVERAL YEARS, I HAD TO TALK TO HER WHEN I SAW HER I THOUGHT, THAT I MAY COULD MEND SOME FENCES AND START O HAVE RELATIONSHIP.. SHE LOOKED DEAD AT ME AND TOLD THE PERSON THAT SHE WAS TALKING TOO IN A VOICE THE SHRIEKED THROUGH THE WHOLE STORE SHE SAID THE I WAS HER ONLY MISTAKE SHE SADI SHE WISHES SHE NEVER HAD ME, SHE WISHESI WAS DEAD.. I LOST IT CAME HOME IN EAS HUSBAND GOT MAD AT ME FOR CRYING I CRIED MORE THAT IS WHY I AM ASKING AM I WORTHY OF THIS DO I DESERVE THIS DO I DESERVE DO TO BE HAPPY
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Your mother is losing out to reject a relationship with you and it sounds like your husband isn't very sensitive to your needs either.

As long as you live and breathe you deserve to be happy as long as your happiness doesn't mean that you are hurting others to achieve it.

Mothers aren't perfect but a good mother loves her children unconditionally. It sounds like the issues are within your mother not you.

Your husband should has shown sympathy in this situation and should have tried to comfort you.

You are worthy and deserve to have happiness in your life.
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God, that must've been horrific! I can imagine the pain that would cause you, and I'm truely sorry that someone would treat you like that. And no, I don't think you're "feeling sorry" for yourself...you're feeling real pain I'm sure. You DO deserve to be happy!!
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Help, you ARE worthy of happiness. Im so sorry that your mother treats you that way. Noone should be told that they were a mistake! I also dont blame you for crying as i cant imagine how painful that must be to be told that by your own mother! shes the one thats not worthy! I applaud you that you were trying to mend fences, but i think you probably would do better to stay away from someone who is so negative! I know how it feels to ask why am i here and what would happen if im not, would anyone care? We care though and ill send my prayers for you to heal your heart. Im here if you need someone to talk to!
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Good god, that is horrible, I am so sorry that happened to you. I wish I could give you a hug. Hang in there sweetie, its her loss not yours. As for your husband he needs to let you cry it out. Sometimes thats best but he needs to try to be supportive even if he does not understand your pain.
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Everyone on this planet deserves to be happy, that is what God intended for us. Don't give anyone the power to put you down, not your mother, not your husband. You can learn to love yourself, and God loves you, and that's enough, that's all you need.
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it must have been tough to hear those words your mother told you.but you do deserve to be happy.and believe me it will get better.
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it must have been tough to hear those words your mother told you.but you do deserve to be happy.and believe me it will get better.
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it must have been tough to hear those words your mother told you.but you do deserve to be happy.and believe me it will get better.
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it must have been tough to hear those words your mother told you.but you do deserve to be happy.and believe me it will get better.
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Good lord, what is wrong with YOUR HUSBAND I want to know. If that isn't a reason to cry you will have to go tearless around him for the rest of your life. Tell him to kick himself in the a-s!
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I have to agree with Robyn. It sounds like you had a terrible time and I am so sorry. I think you have every right to be hurt and angry and to cry. You most definately deserve to be happy. We all do. Just keep reminding yourself, or keep coming here for the reminder, that you are a good person and you are worthy of love and happiness.
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One of my favorite therapists told me once, that women who have a difficult relationship with their mothers (MOI) often have difficult intimate relationships as well. This stands to reason, as we get most of our self image from our same-sexed parent (boys from dads and girls from moms) so if those parents reject us, we reject ourselves, and consequently, tend to find mates who -reject us.
Men in general are raised to think that crying is a weakness, so when women do what women do to relieve stress, and cry, men often think the woman is emotionally unstable, or having a breakdown.
Actually, the opposite is true - the instability happens if we are not allowed to cry, or made to think we shouldn't.
Maybe your husband would benefit from some counseling, or reading a relationship book with you - if he is not interested in learning how to support you better, you might consider a seperation, because you are only going to get worse if you don't get the emotional support you need.
Do you have access for counseling or a therapist for yourself?
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