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Am i a selfish ass??

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Have not posted in awhile, but im sooo glad im still here amoung friends..... As some of you may or may not Know, for about 22years all i have wanted in my life was to have a child of my own to love!First marriage she waited 8 years to tell me she was too selfish to have kids or even be married. For years i have watched all my friends and people i went to school with have great kids and families of thiere own. I have always showed my support and happiness for them.I have been looking for a surrogate seriously for almost 2 years, and at the last min. they all change thier minds!!! My emotions have been toyed and played with by people for years!!! Till now i have grinned and beared my pain!! But i just got news that one of my best friends girlfriend is pregnant! I love them both dearly, but for the life of me i could not even muster a congradulations!! I need to know Honestly!! Am i an ass??for not just faking it again?? Someone PLEASE TELL ME!!
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You can't help the way you feel, but don't let it sabotage your relationships with your friends. x
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your not a ass your just hurting hun..
So sorry for you xx
deleted_user
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i don't think you are an ass...it's hard to "put on a happy face" all the time. *hug* i have no good advice...i'm so sorry
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No your not an ass.

Your human.
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No you are not an ass. I understand you are really hurt. It most be hard to think you will have a child to find out they changed their mind.
MaRhianna
MaRhianna
No you're not an ass, it's the pain you're feeling that's stopping you from congratulating friend's girlfriend. Perhaps after a few days you will be able to see it in a new light and be able to congratulate the happy couple. Take care
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No, you're not. Those are valid feelings, wanting kids is pretty natural and healthy. Had a similar experience with me ex, and still no kids for an oldy like me, so I relate.
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You are just someone who really knows what you want. Don't give up on finding someone special to have a family with!
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you are absolutely not selfish or an ass for wanting a child. it's the most normal thing in the world. and it was totally unfair and selfish of your wife to not tell you for 8 years. you might be an ass...i don't know you...but not for wanting a child. i think it's fine if some people don't want kids, but it's wrong for them to not be completely honest about that with someone who is even considering marriage from the beginning.
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THANK YOU ALL!!! Its nice to know those of you care!!Im all emotional.... over this....
redsilverfox
redsilverfox
HUGS MAYBE YOU WILL BE A GODMOTHER FOR YOUR FRIEND!!!! SO SORRY YOU ARE HAVING ROTTEN LUCK, I HAD THE SAME MY EX-HUBBY WAS STERILE!!!!!!
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NO YOU ARE NOT A CROSS BETWEEN A DONKEY AND A HORSE TRUST ME GENETICIST I WOULD HAVE READ BOUT IT
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no you are not an ass - you want what you want and it's hard when other people you know get what you want. it's hard to feel happy for them, I understand that. my sister wanted a baby so bad and everyone around her seemed to get pregnant. they even joked with her that if anyone wanted to get pregnant to just be by her and they will get pregnant, how f-ing rude of these people. but just as she deceided that she could never had children of her own - she met a guy and got pregnant 2 months later! she was so surprised since she convinced herself she was infertile. but it took a very long time to get there - 8 years I think. so there is hope
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Unwanted infertility is one of the most stressful things there is. There are support groups for this--maybe that could help some.
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Thanks JaneyD! I have been searching for that type of support group, but cant seem to find one that relates to me...
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