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Today is the 3rd anniversary of my Mother's death, I am no kid (41) and she was 81 when she passed away. She wasn't healthy for a long long time had parkinson's disease, dementia and very very bad osteoporosis to the point if you hugged her you could break her. Still it is a very hard day for me. I miss her so much, I took care of her for a few years before my brother gave me one months notice that he was putting her into a care home. My family doesn't get a long and we no longer speak- it's been three years and still he hasn't done her will. I want and need closure to move on, and the reality is that yes I desperately need what money she left to me. He does not, lives in a huge house on 40 acres with a swimming pool. He is much older than me 63, his life is his and mine is mine. Things have been so hard lately, stuff with my son at school. He is ADHD 6.5 years old and I was told last week he couldn't go on the field trip in case he didn't behave. I got this news at 4pm the day before the trip and had no time to rearrange things so he missed a day of school and came to work with me. He was great about it, but I was cleaning apartments and really it's a health and safety issue. I couldn't afford to not do them and finding and paying a sitter on short notice is impossible. My other huge problem is the guy that I was seeing- he wants to be best friends and that is so hard on me. For a few days I am fine then I am hurt and angry again when I think of him going out with other people. He has messed up his life very badly and it looks like he is taking me down with him. It's a long story but the end is that there is a very very good chance I will end up losing my car over this, that on top of money that he owes me. I know the money isn't coming back, things have gotten too out of control for him right now, many many bad things have happened to him in the past 8 months. Personally I am thinking it is Karma kicking his ass, but why is it kicking mine as well? (Something maybe I need to think about I guess). I am really freaking out about my car, it is huge to me. I haven't had it for 14 days now, yesterday it was -45 with the windchill. I really needed to go out to refill my son's medication. I also need to get things for my other son's birthday that is on Friday. I am so mad at myself because I am just as responsible for this mess, I should have known better than to help my "friend" out. I hate myself for the fact that my kids end up being disappointed because of my mistakes. Now I have to suck it up, put this mess aside and put on the happy face and do all that I can to make a good birthday for my son. I didn't plan a party as we are in an apartment and all the party places are too expensive, I was planning a fun family weekend- take my boys to play mini golf, and to a games place, eat where ever he wanted to go and hopefully find a good movie that we could go see. Now with out a car I am afraid that none of that will happen. I am so damn stupid for letting this happen. I am so upset I can't seem to calm down, my stomach is a mess too. Sorry this is so long, just too much happening in my head right now.
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over the last couple of days ive been being told that a physcologist and doctor is the only way for me to heal and help myself, which at first didnt affect me as much but now i seriously am having a panic attack and have absolutley no hope for myself that i am going to heal, i cant see myself healing or being happy and i cant imagine my life getting any better, it truly really feels like it is...
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My sister is in an abusive relationship with a cheater and overall emotionally abusive guy, I have read her text messages with him and he's cheated multiple times and literally takes no accountability and does not know how to apologize properly without putting the blame on her and being manipulative and I really just don't get why she's still staying in the relationship and i don't know how to...
As for your mother's will, please consider getting a lawyer and force the issue.
Gentle hugs.
I assume your brother is executor of your Mother's will. I suggest you conference with an estate attorney .. if your brother is derelict in his executor ship. With luck, you can get an affordable consultation .. to find out what it would take to get your brother to probate the will. He IS bound by law to 'perform' .. but what those laws are is something I would not know. An attorney can explain your position in the matter.
I am not a parent .. so should not comment on your son's behavior.
It seems that with the guy you 'were seeing' .. you should stop seeing him .. or talking to him. You MIGHT even consider taking him to small claims court if he owes you money. He needs to be OUT of your life. You will probably have to suffer the financial losses he has caused unless you have a legal position that would ensure recovery. A person in need is a friend indeed ... make it a lesson learned.
I don't know the details on your car. If there is a lien on it .. and it is in default, it will likely be repossessed. Lien holders are kinda funny .. they want their money or the property.
I know I have not been much help. I have no idea how to 'fix' these problems .. I just know that you don't need to continue creating problems. If nothing else, .. get that deadbeat out of your life.
There is something 'familiar' to me about your situation. I think I have given the same reply in the past. Maybe not.
I know for myself I dated someone who for a period of time after we were split up were friends. It didn't work for us because I was still in love with him. I had to just cut off contact because it was too hard for me to just be "friends" with him. Please know you're not alone, and message me anytime if you'd like to talk! ((hugs))