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No ladies, we ARE NOT ALL ALIKE. With my second wife nearly 15 years, in all that time NEVER ONCE so much as called her a name. She showed an interest in needlepoint, so I went out and bought an antique piano, like..25 bucks (it was shot), took it apart and made this tremendous little stand to hold her fabric "canvasses", then would sit next to her and read the color threads she woud need and load them on the little jig I made so she could just enjoy doing what she loved doing. I felt good about the "me" part. I was attentive, and I trtied, in every way I could. Never faild to notice an effort (home, self, or meal) that she made. I'm not unique.
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A week fter we adopted our daughter (at 2 mos. old) my wife started her school year of teaching and I stayed home with the baby, working from home. I was the one home during the day her whole childhood and teen years. I do more than half the cooking, etc. I'm far from perfect, but I do try my best not to be a "typical" male I keep reading about here.
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Sunrise, no expert here, but find everyone worth keeping in your life the same way, look for kindness, compassion, and understanding. At the first sign that any or all of the above are missing or absent, consider that you may have made a mistake. I may have a bad moment, now and again, but I'll be the same a year from now as I am today.
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I might add, Sweetheart, my needs ALWAYS came second to the woman I was with.
ZAZAS
ZAZAS
and I thought my sisterinlaw married the only decent man alive.
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Sweetheart, I agree that relationships should be 50/50. Just always tried my best to make sure mt 50% was taken cre of. Gotta look at me everymorning when I shave.
katiedyds
katiedyds
I agree plato. Not all men are terrible. My husband has done more than half of the shopping, cooking, cleaning etc before he went to Iraq. He put up with me during some of my darkest depressive days. Not to mention I have many male friends and coworkers who are wonderful fathers, boyfriends, and husbands.

But riddle me this.... why are there so many more men in prison than women?
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Damn Katie..., you get right to the nuts-and-bolts, don't you? OK. Men are genrally more prone to violence than are women,
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AND PLEASE, DO NOT take that as justification for any act.
nobody666
nobody666
if each side is trying to make sure the other always comes first then you naturally end up with a 50 50 even though some days its 60 40 on other days its 40 60.

the best way to find one of us guys that i can think of is look for the quiet shy guy i find he is the one almost always willing to please if the right attention is given
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One last thing, ( in response to sja) There is nothing life has to offer more rewarding than a good relationship. Not borrowed wisdom, my own heartfelt belief.
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If I may just add an opinionon the 50-50 thing...

All relationships actually take 100-100...if your only putting in half of what you can then that is what you get back

If you put in ALL of what you can then it is easier for the partner to take up the slack for you...and it is easier for you to WANT to be there for your partner.

You must give your all to the relationship.

You will find that in this kind of a relationship that it turns into 50-50 because of the comitted support from each other and you both stay strong...
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You are a good kind person.
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Crystal..., Swetheart, you are SOOO right. Always gave the best I had to offer. Still do.
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Thanks for the great post!!!
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good post...i have to say. i have met some jerks in my life but i have a wonderful husband and many male friends i am proud of that are good ppl and good to and for their families. it is nice to remember that not all guys are jerks and not all of us girls are sweet and nice all the time either. we are human and just have to remember to try to always make our loved ones happy and it will come back to us as well.
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