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My friend and neighbor having dinner with head of department and 5 to 7 grad students now. She kinda invited me, but just kinda since I am not comfortable with head of department. I prepared vegetarian dish as my friend asked, small salad-- it is not bad. But since I told her I won't come, I don't know:

a. Should I call my friend ask whether I could come for couple of minutes with Julia? And then to come, bring dish and stay for 5 minutes?

b. Not to come, eat the dish myself-- it tasty.

I am thinking for it for the whole hour and feel completely stupid.

HEEEELP>
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you should go:)
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Go and enjoy yourself and try to get over being uncomfortable. It's just a few hours. Trying to be open to things we dislike, is the way to true wisdom.
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I agree with both replies.

I have found myself agonizing over stuff like this, I know how it feels...

you can excuse yourself anytime, and may have a good time
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Pop in and test the waters. I understand how you feel. I'm not good at social situations at the best of times, but especially if I know there is going to be someone there I'm not comfortable with, but sometimes we need to step outside our comfort zones in order to grow.
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People do not lough at me. I ate all dish and did not go ;-). It was YAM!!!! I feel guilty not to going, but what's the f--k, I cannot make myself.
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Although you asked for help here I have a feeling you had already made up your mind to not go tonight. Do not beat yourself up about it. You tried to get your mind into the idea of going or you would not have made the food, but this time you just were not ready to step out like that on your own.
Next time an opportunity arises force yourself to say 'yes' and follow through with it. Get a sitter even so you can not be hindered from interacting with others and learn to enjoy yourself. Julia does not need to attend something for adults anyway and it's not good to feel you must always stay home with her. She will survive and you need to make friends who have something in common with you too.
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