wow that would be really hard. but wouldnt it be nice having someone that understands you there as well...?
this comment is coming from someone who dosent know your situation sorry

it's okay. i feel like he is the one person who really doesn't understand. hard to explain why

is he working on his depression? My mother has depression, but is in denial and not self reflective on her mood swings, or aware of how nasty she can get, It makes me sad to see her be that way, when I know she can also be quite a lovely woman

Does your dad admit he has it?

thats got to be frustrating... the competition ... was he like this before you found out you were?

he's sorta just accepted it and has just been on fluoxetine for years. he doesn't try to get better, maybe to a certain extent he is in denial.

not to make light of your situation, but sometimes i feel like i have a dozen depressed ppl under 1 roof (my head)

good to see ya here jo girrl!

My dad also has some mental illness - I think it is depression, but he's never gotten help for it!

I don't live with him anymore, but when I used to, there was no air for me to breath, so it really didn't matter much that I was depressed, I just had to deal - not to say I dealt well.

Are you getting away from him soon?

before he found out i was depressed he used to take his depression out on me by yelling at me threatening me etc etc. but every time i had a bad day i got this feeling he didn't give a shit cos he knew in his head his probs were worse

Yeah, I don't know if my dad thought his problems were worse, I think he was more unaware. He would yell at me, too. Even for just eating - he would call me fat even though I weighed nothing. He told me to get out of the house, and told my mom and brother to leave, too. It was horrible. He's an alcoholic on top of his depression, which didn't help the situation any.

There's not much you can do I guess.

well, not so much his problems were worse ... and to tell you the truth, regardless of how I felt, my kid comes first.

Did you have depression before he started taking it out on you? I would think, if so, that probably didnt help much.

AyngeL: Does he himself even realize he has it?

No, Chi. To this day, my dad still seems pretty unaware. Telling him he was hurting the family seemed to be like talking to a brick wall. I'm finally living away from him, but still being around him, thinking about him, or even just looking in his eyes is hard for me. To him, I was a worthless a*hole.

ayngeL: I bet, that has got to be a crappy feeling. But you know different. Even if it doesnt make it right, or feel good, you know better.

I am glad you tried to tell him, but a lot of people from his generation will not see anything as a problem. Something really drastic will have to hit him for him to see what he needs to.

You saying that makes me so worried, b/c I know that he's going to learn the hard way. I just try not to think about it. It's so hard on us kids.

i can relate. my dad also has depression and I do to. it can be hard. hang in there.

My brother has depression and up to a couple of weeks ago,so did I.We have to see each other every sunday and we both didnt understand how each other was feeling and got angry with each other.(Im usually more understanding than that) Now i feel better I can see that when you are depressed,you are so wrapped up in how YOU feel,that you cant handle how others may feel and sort of dont care.I hope this is making sense,cuz i have a headache and im starting to confuse myself,haha.We are on here for you to talk anyway.x