Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
Rather than losing your temper and feeling all the frustration and pain tat comes with it there are communication techniques to combat difficult people 10 examples;
1) When you INTERRUPT ME, I get frustrated and loose my thoughts. I need you to let me finish before you start talking then I will listen to what ever you have to say.
2) When you MAKE TO MUCH NOISE or ask me things when I am doing something
I can't concentrate. I'd appreciate it if you would keep the volume down and wait until I have finished what ever I am doing.
3) When you arrive late or do not call it puts me behind schedule and causes other problems for me. i need you to be on time or call me with enough time so I can rearrange things please.
4)When I hear you tell people personal things I confided in you. I'm disappointed and uncertain whether I can trust you.
5)When you slam the doors or bang things around when you are telling me something. I get too upset to listen to you or concentrate on what you are saying I need you to stop doing that.
6) When you yell at me I get to upset to even care what you are saying. I can listen better if you speak to me in the volume I am using right now (Just be careful you are having a screaming fit when you tell him that)
Option: Look as I see it, we can either talk calmly now or wait until later.
Another option: We can get a lot accomplished here, but only if we can keep the volume down.
Another option: I'll listen to whatever you have to say, but I can't concentrate on any of it when it's this loud.
7)When you get on at me in front of others,
I feel uncomfortable and it makes me mad,
I will be more likely to listen to you if you talk to me in private.
8)When you stare at my every move, I feel uncomfortable and I get the message you think I am going to do something wrong.
I'd appreciate it if you would stop doing it.
9)When you chat with me or ask me to do things while I am on the phone or the computer, I can't concentrate on what you are saying or what you want me to do. I need you to wait until I am finished what I am doing so I can get what you are saying or wanting.
10) When you speak to me sarcastically, I really get mad, frustrated and feel bad,
We can get on a lot better and get more done together if you talk to me respectfully.
You can mix and match to most situations.
1) When you INTERRUPT ME, I get frustrated and loose my thoughts. I need you to let me finish before you start talking then I will listen to what ever you have to say.
2) When you MAKE TO MUCH NOISE or ask me things when I am doing something
I can't concentrate. I'd appreciate it if you would keep the volume down and wait until I have finished what ever I am doing.
3) When you arrive late or do not call it puts me behind schedule and causes other problems for me. i need you to be on time or call me with enough time so I can rearrange things please.
4)When I hear you tell people personal things I confided in you. I'm disappointed and uncertain whether I can trust you.
5)When you slam the doors or bang things around when you are telling me something. I get too upset to listen to you or concentrate on what you are saying I need you to stop doing that.
6) When you yell at me I get to upset to even care what you are saying. I can listen better if you speak to me in the volume I am using right now (Just be careful you are having a screaming fit when you tell him that)
Option: Look as I see it, we can either talk calmly now or wait until later.
Another option: We can get a lot accomplished here, but only if we can keep the volume down.
Another option: I'll listen to whatever you have to say, but I can't concentrate on any of it when it's this loud.
7)When you get on at me in front of others,
I feel uncomfortable and it makes me mad,
I will be more likely to listen to you if you talk to me in private.
8)When you stare at my every move, I feel uncomfortable and I get the message you think I am going to do something wrong.
I'd appreciate it if you would stop doing it.
9)When you chat with me or ask me to do things while I am on the phone or the computer, I can't concentrate on what you are saying or what you want me to do. I need you to wait until I am finished what I am doing so I can get what you are saying or wanting.
10) When you speak to me sarcastically, I really get mad, frustrated and feel bad,
We can get on a lot better and get more done together if you talk to me respectfully.
You can mix and match to most situations.
deleted_user
My bf is just how you described....he doesn't even know he's being trained,but he'll soon be back in his place...hate it when my bitches rare up at me........
Join the Conversation
-
I miss traveling with my husband. Has anyone found a specific site regarding cruising for widow/widowers or any sightseeing trips. Not interested in being with couples and kids,,,I realize a cruise ship will have a portion size of families and couples, but perhaps they also put together a part of the cruise ship for groups of widows/widowers????
-
A friend sent this to me..As far as I can see, grief will never truly end.It may become softer overtime, more gentleand some days will feel sharp.But grief will last as long as Love does - ForeverIt's simply the way the absence of your loved onemanifests in your heart. A deep longing accompaniedby the deepest Love some days. The heavy fog mayreturn and the next day, it may recede.Once again, it's...
