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Rather than losing your temper and feeling all the frustration and pain tat comes with it there are communication techniques to combat difficult people 10 examples;
1) When you INTERRUPT ME, I get frustrated and loose my thoughts. I need you to let me finish before you start talking then I will listen to what ever you have to say.
2) When you MAKE TO MUCH NOISE or ask me things when I am doing something
I can't concentrate. I'd appreciate it if you would keep the volume down and wait until I have finished what ever I am doing.
3) When you arrive late or do not call it puts me behind schedule and causes other problems for me. i need you to be on time or call me with enough time so I can rearrange things please.
4)When I hear you tell people personal things I confided in you. I'm disappointed and uncertain whether I can trust you.
5)When you slam the doors or bang things around when you are telling me something. I get too upset to listen to you or concentrate on what you are saying I need you to stop doing that.
6) When you yell at me I get to upset to even care what you are saying. I can listen better if you speak to me in the volume I am using right now (Just be careful you are having a screaming fit when you tell him that)
Option: Look as I see it, we can either talk calmly now or wait until later.
Another option: We can get a lot accomplished here, but only if we can keep the volume down.
Another option: I'll listen to whatever you have to say, but I can't concentrate on any of it when it's this loud.
7)When you get on at me in front of others,
I feel uncomfortable and it makes me mad,
I will be more likely to listen to you if you talk to me in private.
8)When you stare at my every move, I feel uncomfortable and I get the message you think I am going to do something wrong.
I'd appreciate it if you would stop doing it.
9)When you chat with me or ask me to do things while I am on the phone or the computer, I can't concentrate on what you are saying or what you want me to do. I need you to wait until I am finished what I am doing so I can get what you are saying or wanting.
10) When you speak to me sarcastically, I really get mad, frustrated and feel bad,
We can get on a lot better and get more done together if you talk to me respectfully.
You can mix and match to most situations.
1) When you INTERRUPT ME, I get frustrated and loose my thoughts. I need you to let me finish before you start talking then I will listen to what ever you have to say.
2) When you MAKE TO MUCH NOISE or ask me things when I am doing something
I can't concentrate. I'd appreciate it if you would keep the volume down and wait until I have finished what ever I am doing.
3) When you arrive late or do not call it puts me behind schedule and causes other problems for me. i need you to be on time or call me with enough time so I can rearrange things please.
4)When I hear you tell people personal things I confided in you. I'm disappointed and uncertain whether I can trust you.
5)When you slam the doors or bang things around when you are telling me something. I get too upset to listen to you or concentrate on what you are saying I need you to stop doing that.
6) When you yell at me I get to upset to even care what you are saying. I can listen better if you speak to me in the volume I am using right now (Just be careful you are having a screaming fit when you tell him that)
Option: Look as I see it, we can either talk calmly now or wait until later.
Another option: We can get a lot accomplished here, but only if we can keep the volume down.
Another option: I'll listen to whatever you have to say, but I can't concentrate on any of it when it's this loud.
7)When you get on at me in front of others,
I feel uncomfortable and it makes me mad,
I will be more likely to listen to you if you talk to me in private.
8)When you stare at my every move, I feel uncomfortable and I get the message you think I am going to do something wrong.
I'd appreciate it if you would stop doing it.
9)When you chat with me or ask me to do things while I am on the phone or the computer, I can't concentrate on what you are saying or what you want me to do. I need you to wait until I am finished what I am doing so I can get what you are saying or wanting.
10) When you speak to me sarcastically, I really get mad, frustrated and feel bad,
We can get on a lot better and get more done together if you talk to me respectfully.
You can mix and match to most situations.
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