saetia -

are you talking from personal experience? is there something going on that you care to share with us? we\'re here to listen.

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It is ideal when parents are tuned into their children and able to detect when they are in pain or in need. Unfortunately this is not always the case and teens need to utilize other resources. If you are speaking from personal experience, I urge you to contact your local community counseling center or to call a suicide hotline to obtain other resources in your community.

no im not talking from personal experience. but one of my best friends is having a really hard time.. and everytime i try to help him..i see myself failing, and his depressions are getting worse and worse, even though his parents seem like really nice people.. they are blind. They just do not see what is happening to their son.

Well okay, i have to contradict myself there, some of this is from personal experience, due to the fact that my parents didnt give a damn about me for a long time. Ofcourse not feeling loved.. and not being able to share out this love.. just causes further depressions, and leads to SI.
Ofcourse i told my parents after a while, and yer they did something about it..
so im fine.

But now back to my friend. His parents arent in the best financial position.. and they are just keeping themselves over water with their monthly wages. And they probably wont be able to pay for his medicine.. and im not sure.. if giving him mine.. would be a good idea..
But im thinking of still telling his parents.. cos after all.. love helped me out a lot.. maybe the same thing goes for him.

I don\'t think anyone would advise you to give your meds to your friend. You would be putting your own well-being and health at risk as well as your friend\'s. The med that is safe and effective for you is not necessarily safe and effective for your friend. I do think it\'s a good idea to talk to your friend\'s parents, preferably if your friend knows that you intend to do so. The more loved ones know about his emotional state, the more it is likely that he will get the help he needs, whether that is meds or therapy or a combination.

but you see, his parents problem is the fact that they wouldnt be able to afford a therapist, or the meds.
Like, my parents used to be 180 an hour....and it actually sums up a lot of money at the end of the month.

Saetia,

I know it must be frustrating for you, but one thing you can do is search your local/county/city/public services and what is provided. When dealing with public entities (anything run by the government) things can move slowly, but be persistent and get answers as where your friend may be able to go to get help.

Hey girl
Not to load too much on you but to add to Jeremy\'s great suggestions...all drug companies (usually the evil but they do have a soft side) have hardship programs (easy to find out how to apply online) so once he has a med prescribed his provider can always get him meds...that shouldnt be a barrier. Keep us posted and we can help direct you guys...a lot to handle as teens.
Dr O.

I agree, it's hard to hate yourself while doing yoga! Such a calming form of exercise.

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When I was a teen I was severly depressed and suicidal. My parents had no idea. I survived. Now my daughter is depressed and unless things change could end up like I was. I just wanted some one to talk to when I was that age but my daughter doesn't want to talk to me. She will talk to her mother but her mother thinks she is fine and I am over reacting. I know as soon as I see her in the morning what kind of night she had and after school I know what kind of day she had. My daugher says she loves me but wants me to leave her alone. It kills me to see her in pain but what can I do???

i think many of them are in denial that there kid is messed up. i know mine are, they are perfectly aware that i need help yet wont take the time to get it for me. maybe another factor is money issues but i know for sure that that isnt the case with my parents.... maybe something is wrong with them??

My parents dont really care for me. I tried to commit suicide 4 times. They just took me out to lunch.I told them how I felt & they went home.
They simply don't care like good parents should.

im in that situation.
in my case, they just dont care