Depression - Teen Support Group
Teen depression is marked by persistent sadness, discouragement, loss of self-worth, and loss of interest in usual activities. Depression can be a temporary response to many situations and stresses. Teens may be more susceptible to depression due to the normal maturation process, the stress associated with it, and conflicts with parents as they become more independent.
so me & my recent boyfriend have been best friends for 5 years now. we've practically spent everyday together.. & we've been on-&-off for the past 3 years. but never for this long. our relationship was about to hit the 1 & a half year mark this december. we had just started college together back in our hometown. i thought this would be good for us because even though we wouldn't see eachother half as much as we used to, the time spent together would be so much more worth it. first you must udnerstand one thing, he has always treated me with the utmost respect. my parents love him, my brother loves him.. he's really close with all my family as i am with his. but lately he started acting really strange with me, just freaking out over the stupidest things. you could feel there was a wall building up between the two of us. then a month ago, he went out with some friends in his course, drank, one girl (who he talked about excessively) gave him a ride home, his parents weren't home, he never called me that night.. & so on. so i went over the next day & he was acting really distant with me. i was trying to do everything i could to make him feel comfortable enough to talk to me.. then finally he just blurted out he had a stupid crush on this girl. i knew it was her, & i completely lost it. i really didn't know ho to handle it. he just kept telling me that he loves me, that he doesn't want to be with her, he wants to be with me & for me to stay with him & trust him. i got my mom to pick me up because i couldn't look at him anymore. when i went there the next day he broke up with me saying he just needs some time & space, not with me, not with her.. just to figure everything out. the next 3 weeks they were inseperable. he was completely ignoring me & he was taking her to all the places me & him used to hang out. it hurts to see them at school & to walk past me like he never even knew me. to top everything off, she has a child from a one-night stand. this girl is bad news. she cheats on every guy she's with, she just can't stick to one guy. she's a complete maneater & homewrecker, & it was an even bigger blow because she's really not attractive at all! i just don't understand how one day he could tell me he loves me & the next he completely shuts me out of his life with no problems. what the hell is going on with him!?
the night he told me he had a crush on her, i went home & tried to commit suicide.. my parents ran in just in time. then about 2 weeks ago i just lost it again, i locked myself in the bathroom & my parents came home early & knocked the door down.. second attempt failed. i was really thankful afterwards, but i always seem to get back into this mind frame that i just don't want to try anymore. it just hurts to much, everything he's done to me.. with no real explanation. are there any guys that can tell me their opinion.. even girls if they have it.. because i really don't trust myself right now & i'm just trying to get me something to keep me going..
the night he told me he had a crush on her, i went home & tried to commit suicide.. my parents ran in just in time. then about 2 weeks ago i just lost it again, i locked myself in the bathroom & my parents came home early & knocked the door down.. second attempt failed. i was really thankful afterwards, but i always seem to get back into this mind frame that i just don't want to try anymore. it just hurts to much, everything he's done to me.. with no real explanation. are there any guys that can tell me their opinion.. even girls if they have it.. because i really don't trust myself right now & i'm just trying to get me something to keep me going..
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
But listen, one thing that I've always been told and say to my gal pals in cases like this is: no relationship is worth illing yourself over.
It is tough having problems like this- having your world crash down around you. Building a life around somebody, and then having that ripped out beneath your feet, you're obviously gonna fall. But if you stay down, that doesn't help anyone.
Maybe write him altter, telling him how you feel. Sending it/giving it to him is up to you, but getting your feelings out helps. If you bottle it up, you create low points, which are scary places. You've been there twice already it sounds like.
You have to focus on what joys you have in life outside of the relationship with this guy. You have your own life, and you have interests out side of him.
Do something for yourself, get your nails done, do something different with your hair, go shopping, write a poem/song, play music, take a walk through some trees/park, or maybe just listen to some music that makes you happy (metal/heavy punk/rock genres should be excluded though, lsten to something happy. Get out the camera and snap some gorgeous pictures, maybe have someone take it of you when you're looking gorgeous and then send it to him, let him remember what he's missing.
Before a healthy relationship can work, both people have to be o with themselves. It also helps when both sides are compassionate for eachother, understanding, and want the relationship to last.
Guys have a tendancy when, they have a great relationship, to want more. Guys look at other women when they are with their girlfriend, and not think anything of it. It is the same thing when they flake out and go to a girl who is not as good as they girl they are with.
However, if you two have been on and off for 3 years, it may be a good idea to find somebody else. They are strong words, I know, but, on/off relationships never end well.
Trust me, there is more than one man who will get along with the family. Especially if you are just starting college. This is a great place to meet people!!! Clubs, music nights in the college center, there is all sorts of things going on- find something that you like, and then you'll find others who like the same things, and BAM! You've met new people.
I think you should make a list of things good/bad about this guy, things that you like, and things he does that makes you angry, things you've fought about, broken up about. Include emotional stress, it adds to the over all decision.
When you're done, it is eaasier to let him go, if that is the decision.
If he is the guy for you, things will work out, but if you've broken up more than a couple times, I think it is in your best interest to look for someone else, the emotional stress it seems he causes is not worth it!
YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY!!!
Good luck!!