Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
Hi all,
I am wondering, is anyone else in here in the same/similar crappy situation that i am in?
I am with my fiancee (Dated 6yrs) and living with her AND i also work with her.
Some may think that this is a sweet and great situation to be in to get to know your partner..blah...blah...blah.. etc...etc.. But the problem is that she is depressed with bipolar tendancies and it is turning out to be a bad week.
The part that gets me is that there is literally no escape for me at the moment... If she has an "Episode" the night before and it carries through to the next day...like it has today... I cant even get a moments worth of reprieve from the continuous verbal attacks!!!
It was so bad last night that i voluntarily slept on the sofa!!!! and as it can be imagined this morning was like the nights sleep never happened... Then on to the subway...and all the way to work... and now we have been in work for 3 hrs and 2hrs 45mins have been spent with her re-iterating how much she hates me, why she hates me and what I should have done....
I swear... at times i feel so Damnnnnn angry and feel like the end of my teather is close... too close..
If there is anyone out there with an ounce of experience in this situation I am so open armed to advice please send it my way as this is maddening!!
I am wondering, is anyone else in here in the same/similar crappy situation that i am in?
I am with my fiancee (Dated 6yrs) and living with her AND i also work with her.
Some may think that this is a sweet and great situation to be in to get to know your partner..blah...blah...blah.. etc...etc.. But the problem is that she is depressed with bipolar tendancies and it is turning out to be a bad week.
The part that gets me is that there is literally no escape for me at the moment... If she has an "Episode" the night before and it carries through to the next day...like it has today... I cant even get a moments worth of reprieve from the continuous verbal attacks!!!
It was so bad last night that i voluntarily slept on the sofa!!!! and as it can be imagined this morning was like the nights sleep never happened... Then on to the subway...and all the way to work... and now we have been in work for 3 hrs and 2hrs 45mins have been spent with her re-iterating how much she hates me, why she hates me and what I should have done....
I swear... at times i feel so Damnnnnn angry and feel like the end of my teather is close... too close..
If there is anyone out there with an ounce of experience in this situation I am so open armed to advice please send it my way as this is maddening!!
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
My husband welcomed me back yesterday... the beast had been in control for many weeks....
when I am well enough I encourage my husband to go out with his friends and have some fun...to take time for himself...
we have made a routine I will share.. it might help for you.... every day after work he takes an hour to himself... he does not come straight home ( I had suck it up an accept he needs his own time)... he goes for a beer with his work buddies... or goes to see his friends and vents about his day or the stress I am causing him... It is 1 hour out of 24 that is just his.... I think it keeps him sane and gives him strength to deal with the stress I cause...
So I guess what I am saying is remember to take care of you too...
Chunkie I am sorry but an hour a night away from the stress isn't the answer. The hell we go through to hold our sanity and our temper even though our feelings are raked over the coals and beaten just because the "beast" is in control isn't right at all. Just because they don't feel good doesn't give them the right to find our buttons and degrade us to make us feel like hell also!!
I will take myelf out of this board... I obviously don't understand how it is to be in your shoes....I thought I might be able to help. now I think it may have been inappropriate.again I am truly sorry. I wish you only the best...