
Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
GOD BLESS.
THE MINISTER
I am going through similiar things as well. About a year ago, my husband out of the blue told me that he wasn't happy with anything and thought that we should get separated/divorced. He pushed me away, starting sleeping on the couch and just shut down. I wanted answers because I was in shock. He lied constantly, still does, has inappropriate boundaries, etc. He was diagnosed before with depression but always denied it and played it off like it was alright. I got him to go to therapy and he was diagnosed once again with depression and anxiety. Still doesn't admit to it, but he moved out in September.
It is hard to deal with someone that you love who has left and I found that it is worse when you're home alone thinking about everything. I have found that keeping busy is what gets me through the day. I have a two year old and she keeps me busy but I try and find things to do that I like doing. I like to go out for coffee, go to the bookstore, watch movies, meet up with friends. Talking to a therapist is also helpful as it will get you through what you need to get through in order to be well again.
Take one thing at a time so you don't overwhelm yourself. Everything else will fall into place. As Kluveling said, you need to find your own way. When you start finding your own way, you will feel better knowing what you've accomplished and how far you have come. It's ok to cry too-there's no shame in that no matter how old we are and if we're male or female. You are grieving the loss of your wife. It's to be expected to feel sad and alone. Try finding a group that share similiar interests with you such as church or meetup.com.
Good luck to you. Come on here for help and support. The people are great!
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