Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
So, my uncle is struggling alot with depression after a recent, major blow to his business.
He's not the type of guy who anyone would EVER expect to go through something as horrible as depression, but hey, it can happen to anyone. I'm worried.
I've seen alot of people i love struggle through depression and i understand where it comes from, whereas i don't believe his family does. His kids don't seem to understand how serious his depression is, and his wife, though she understands its serious, seems to think he is choosing to act this way and therefore they fight alot and she's thinking of leaving him.
for this reason my uncle is leaning on us alot for support, specifically my older brother. My brother has always been the type of guy you can rely on. He would drop anything in the world to help out the people he loves, no matter what is going on in his life at the time.
Anyway, i'm worried about HIM! He's only 29, and he's got the weight of the world on his shoulders. He's the most amazing guy i've ever met and he's been the only man in our house for around 12 years now. This means he's been a father figure to me for most of my life, he's worked his butt off so that he can help my single mum out financially, my sister doesn't have a clue how to support herself and is naieve with things like money so he supports her cooshy lifestyle over in london, as well as making sure he's here for me at the moment as i am pregnant, being at my uncle's beck and call at all hours of the day and night, his relationship with his girlfriend of 3 years fell apart because she felt he wasn't paying enough attention to her because of his commitment to his family and so she cheated on him, and his phone rings off the hook all day with people at his work constantly needing him.
He's stressed to the max, feeling really down about himself as he's put on alot of weight from the stress, and i'm worried that while he's trying to be everyone's super hero, he's going to spiral into his own pit of depression.
I want to know how i can support someone who's more or less the sole supporter of someone with serious depression. At the moment, i just try to be here for him to talk to when he needs it. He's the most amazing guy in the world and i love him so so much, i just hate to see him struggling this much.
Sorry to have babbled and i'm not sure if i was clear about the problem at hand, but if you could decipher my ranting, any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks x
He's not the type of guy who anyone would EVER expect to go through something as horrible as depression, but hey, it can happen to anyone. I'm worried.
I've seen alot of people i love struggle through depression and i understand where it comes from, whereas i don't believe his family does. His kids don't seem to understand how serious his depression is, and his wife, though she understands its serious, seems to think he is choosing to act this way and therefore they fight alot and she's thinking of leaving him.
for this reason my uncle is leaning on us alot for support, specifically my older brother. My brother has always been the type of guy you can rely on. He would drop anything in the world to help out the people he loves, no matter what is going on in his life at the time.
Anyway, i'm worried about HIM! He's only 29, and he's got the weight of the world on his shoulders. He's the most amazing guy i've ever met and he's been the only man in our house for around 12 years now. This means he's been a father figure to me for most of my life, he's worked his butt off so that he can help my single mum out financially, my sister doesn't have a clue how to support herself and is naieve with things like money so he supports her cooshy lifestyle over in london, as well as making sure he's here for me at the moment as i am pregnant, being at my uncle's beck and call at all hours of the day and night, his relationship with his girlfriend of 3 years fell apart because she felt he wasn't paying enough attention to her because of his commitment to his family and so she cheated on him, and his phone rings off the hook all day with people at his work constantly needing him.
He's stressed to the max, feeling really down about himself as he's put on alot of weight from the stress, and i'm worried that while he's trying to be everyone's super hero, he's going to spiral into his own pit of depression.
I want to know how i can support someone who's more or less the sole supporter of someone with serious depression. At the moment, i just try to be here for him to talk to when he needs it. He's the most amazing guy in the world and i love him so so much, i just hate to see him struggling this much.
Sorry to have babbled and i'm not sure if i was clear about the problem at hand, but if you could decipher my ranting, any help would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks x
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Does your uncle have any professional help? Is he taking medication? Anything that will help him come through this will ultimately release some of the pressure off your brother.
I'm sorry I can't be more help but if I can help at all let me know. Just remember that being there for him to talk to is the best thing that you can do, just carry on supporting him and try to get him to talk about his own feelings to try and stop his depression from taking over.
I think its also because my uncle does business with my brother, so he's relying on him to get him back on his feet after such a big blow to his business but my brother just doesn't have the time to devote himself to him.
I don't know, my uncle has gone to see a doctor and a psychiatrist now, and has been prescribed meds, but his wife says she's 'too busy' with her son to go pick up the meds...its frustrating!
Anyway, thanks for your advice. After i have my baby, which should be in the next couple of weeks, we're looking in at getting my uncle and his wife to come stay with us at the beach somewhere. We figure maybe getting him involved in all thats happening with the baby could help him. I read a study on a man who went through a similar thing to my uncle and found a way out of his depression by devoting himself to helping someone who's problem was worse than his. I can't wait to get my bubbly uncle back and wish i could lift the massive weight that my brother is carrying!
Thanks again, i really appreciate it, and i pray that you're mother is healing. xx
Just try to keep him talking and letting him vent if thats what he needs sometimes they just need to talk.....