Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
I've gone through some really hard things in my life (both my parents passed away by the time I was 19) but this one takes the cake.
My husband is severely depressed. Recently he had to take six weeks off work and go on state disability as he was wanting to drive his car of bridges and into walls (he drives for work). The only thing that kept him from doing so was thinking of me and our son.
He was on celexa when this was happening, it initially helped but then he got worse. He's on prozac now, taking his meds sporadically, and his depression is getting worse again.
Its very hard to be his support person because he doesn't want anyone else to see him as weak and won't ask/accept help from anyone else. Its hard because he's not doing much to try to improve the situation. His meds make him foggy minded and he hates it. But won't see his doctor (whom he hates), and won't find a new one.
We have couples therapy which helps a great deal, and we both have one on one therapy as well (I suffer from Cyclothymia and anxiety myself) but in the last 6 weeks he's gone in twice for his weekly sessions.
This last week has been very rough. Being around his depression over the 4 day weekend brought mine on. I don't blame him for that, I'm a very sensitive person, but now we're both really low and its a tough spot.
My friends are great, they listen and support me, but I don't want to be the constant bummer when I'm around them. I hope that I can get out some of my need to talk about what's going on here, with others that understand.
My husband is severely depressed. Recently he had to take six weeks off work and go on state disability as he was wanting to drive his car of bridges and into walls (he drives for work). The only thing that kept him from doing so was thinking of me and our son.
He was on celexa when this was happening, it initially helped but then he got worse. He's on prozac now, taking his meds sporadically, and his depression is getting worse again.
Its very hard to be his support person because he doesn't want anyone else to see him as weak and won't ask/accept help from anyone else. Its hard because he's not doing much to try to improve the situation. His meds make him foggy minded and he hates it. But won't see his doctor (whom he hates), and won't find a new one.
We have couples therapy which helps a great deal, and we both have one on one therapy as well (I suffer from Cyclothymia and anxiety myself) but in the last 6 weeks he's gone in twice for his weekly sessions.
This last week has been very rough. Being around his depression over the 4 day weekend brought mine on. I don't blame him for that, I'm a very sensitive person, but now we're both really low and its a tough spot.
My friends are great, they listen and support me, but I don't want to be the constant bummer when I'm around them. I hope that I can get out some of my need to talk about what's going on here, with others that understand.
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I can actually admit to fleeting thoughts of driving into an oncoming truck or wall when I have felt hopeless. I would never DO it, but Ive thought it.
It sounds like you are supportive of him, but what about HIM being supportive of YOU!
It does not sound like the medications he is taking are doing it for him. Is there any chance he might be bipolar, because SSRI anti depressant are can make bipolar disorder worse. Maybe you could stress to him that it could be the wrong meds causing the latest problems, which is nothing to feel ashamed of.
One suggestion I have is that I have been taking a vitamin supplement, Omega3 fish oil capsules, which have been shown to improve mood (do a google search for info) and I think it is helping. Its also good for your heart.