My mom is 58 yrs. old and has been depressed for several years. She attempted suicide 3 years ago in my home and my dau. who was 7 at the time found her. She has since been very depressed and difficult to deal with. She lives behind me in an apt. she had built. She has a multitude of medical problems and has lost most of her money over the years after my dad died and has made many bad decisions in the past. I can't talk to her. She has admitted herself into inpatient 3 times, had ECT, is on a multitude of meds. and sees a therapist regularly. I feel she is depressed because she doesn't have any money as that has always been important to her and is physically unable to do the things she once did. She always traveled and compulsively shopped and gambled. We do not get along and I have tried. She called my sister today and told her she just wanted to kill herself again but knew how it would hurt her and how she did not want to live. My sister called me crying and I told her she could not "heal" mom or change her life. She calls my mom and begs her to come to her home and to stay with her and my mom tells her she just needs some company. My mom is always trying to monopolize my sisters time from her family and my sister will ignore her family because she is worried about my mom and that is when my mom is happiest. My mom has manipulative tendencies and has been diagnosed with bipolar. My sister thinks I don't care but I have encouraged my mom to get out and stay in touch with friends, to find a church, a support group but she just wants my sister or me. I feel very cold and distant toward toward her and I can't help it. I'm a social worker and have dealt with this, but can't deal with her. I'm angry she tried killing herself in my home and feel she has always been selfish. She will cry and say she wants to be the center of someone's attention. Growing up, I remember mom crying a lot and threatening to leave my dad because the grass was always greener on the other side. My Husband says my mom doesn't like me anymore because I won't let her manipulate me. I know depression is clinical, but how do I break through these walls and help my sister cope and not ruin her marriage. I'm so lost, losing sleep over this and feel like a terrible person. I don't know what to do. I've thought about contacting the therapist she sees because I know she is not honest with her. She has told me this in the past. I probably need therapy myself....I think she needs intensive inpatient treatment but mom is not going to do it. What can I do for my mom and my sister?
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