Depression Supporters Support Group

This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.

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Husband Depressed, Neeing to find resources&Id

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I hesitate to write this, however my situation becomes increasingly worse..
My H's depression has become worse due to setbacks. It has basically caused him to be disabled in a sense.. he cant even watch our children, while I work.. all he can do is sleep, and play an online game, and find everyway he can to escape..
I do not qualify for childcare assistance because we are married, and they say, that he should be able to care for the children.
Next week he is going into inpatient care.. Hoping this will actually help him, and we can turn things around, but I dont know how to save us at the moment. I have already found some resources to help us, but if I cant find solutions very quickly, I will be putting everything in storage, and taking the children to live in a motel.. or worse..
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Thanks to anyone who takes the time to read my post, and I certainly appreciate any ideas.
I am very motivated and will do whatever I can to fix this..
More info.. DH is already taking medications. Once he goes inpatient, I think they will be evaluating his condition more seriously.
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Is he a danger to himself or others? Can you have him involuntarily committed? My H is depressed and gambling as well but will not take meds. You can read my post on the Gambling page. I am at a loss myself, I guess that is why I come here...I wish you the best
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he is just not himself, and we are worried that he will keep feeling worse.. so he is going voluntary... he is sick of the funk.. im really proud of him for atleast wanting to take care of himself, and us.
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My husband was like that about 2 1/2 yrs ago my husband is self employed and he brings in the most money and he was at the point that he wasn't working much and he also had psychosis were he heard voices.. Finally after 6 months of hell he finally admitted to how bad he was and he went voluntarlly into the hospital and they ended up switching his medicine he wasn't in there longbut the new meds seemed to do the trick. Although we are going through another battle with the psychosis, when they start feeling better and they go off there meds. I would check with the doctors and see if they thing he would be able to get disability becasue I know we were almost to the point of doing that because they get to the point were they can't function and it is hard for the spouse that can to keep up with everything and it sounds like you have small kids. My heart goes out to you... I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers..
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My husband is going through the same thing. He has had a complete breakdown, and there's strain on both sides (I have suffered depression in the past - but haven't had to deal with anyone else who is depressed - I'm only just beginning to realise how "self-absorbed" you become when you're depressed. You appear to have no real control over what is happening while you're going through it either - even if you want to!)

Hubby had no idea what he was going through till it all hit him suddenly. But in hindsight, I think some of it has been there since his parents divorced about 5 years ago or so (it was very messy - and a very hard time for the both of us as we were dragged into the mess).

I don't think he truly dealt with what had happened, and as he always does, kept everything to his chest.

The hardest part is getting him to open up and talk about what he's feeling etc.

This bout of depression has only just hit in recent weeks - but it's hit him hard.

He's working late nights at the moment, trying to get his work under control (there's lots of stress in his job - which is actually what caused the break down)

Trying to get him to get some help outside our marriage, he's going to be seeing my gp about this soon too, she's really good and should be able to put him on the right path to recovery.

All the best for your situation... hope it all improves for you... realise it's going to be a long, hard road for a while.
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My husband is going through the same thing. He has had a complete breakdown, and there's strain on both sides (I have suffered depression in the past - but haven't had to deal with anyone else who is depressed - I'm only just beginning to realise how "self-absorbed" you become when you're depressed. You appear to have no real control over what is happening while you're going through it either - even if you want to!)

Hubby had no idea what he was going through till it all hit him suddenly. But in hindsight, I think some of it has been there since his parents divorced about 5 years ago or so (it was very messy - and a very hard time for the both of us as we were dragged into the mess).

I don't think he truly dealt with what had happened, and as he always does, kept everything to his chest.

The hardest part is getting him to open up and talk about what he's feeling etc.

This bout of depression has only just hit in recent weeks - but it's hit him hard.

He's working late nights at the moment, trying to get his work under control (there's lots of stress in his job - which is actually what caused the break down)

Trying to get him to get some help outside our marriage, he's going to be seeing my gp about this soon too, she's really good and should be able to put him on the right path to recovery.

All the best for your situation... hope it all improves for you... realise it's going to be a long, hard road for a while.
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