Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
These last few weeks a friend has been calling about her shaky but new relationship (they have been dating 2 mos). She saw a lot of potential in the guy, but he drank a lot, was very depressed, and just did not seem to be entirely what she was looking for. However, she did care for him and wanted to try a bit longer. Well, just after her call last Saturday, on Monday, her boyfriend went missing.
Family, friends, etc. No one had heard from him and he would not pick up/return calls. Finally, they were able to look at his email/credit card records, and it turns out the guy drove out to S.Francisco and tried to jump off a bridge. They found him and took him into custody. In the meantime, in the email records, there was an email to a girl he had dated in the past saying "I think I am in love with you."
Since he has been back, she has gone to visit him, and has said she feels really in love with him. She, his parents, and her parents often seem less than shocked about all that has happened, I am really concerned --- for ALL parties. Any advice/insight as to how to speak with her about this? She is going to therapy today, and I am really happy for that, but still am very worried. Help! Thanks so much to any/all of you who read this (in advance) and have something to say!
Family, friends, etc. No one had heard from him and he would not pick up/return calls. Finally, they were able to look at his email/credit card records, and it turns out the guy drove out to S.Francisco and tried to jump off a bridge. They found him and took him into custody. In the meantime, in the email records, there was an email to a girl he had dated in the past saying "I think I am in love with you."
Since he has been back, she has gone to visit him, and has said she feels really in love with him. She, his parents, and her parents often seem less than shocked about all that has happened, I am really concerned --- for ALL parties. Any advice/insight as to how to speak with her about this? She is going to therapy today, and I am really happy for that, but still am very worried. Help! Thanks so much to any/all of you who read this (in advance) and have something to say!
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Just from what you wrote, it sounds like there are a lot of red flags. I have had depression, and I have been suicidal. But I also recognized that it was ME. I think your mom should recognize that this guy has a lot HIS issues to work out before he is ready for a relationship.
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Sorry--friend, not mom.
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