
Depression Supporters Support Group
This community is dedicated to spouses, children, relatives, co-workers and others who are actively supporting someone suffering from depression or other serious mental illness. Depression can bring about intense sadness, melancholia or despair that has advanced to the point of being disruptive, which can have a grave impact on the ability of others trying to help.
I am very sorry for your loss. I will be praying for you.
First of all, I'm sorry about your son, it must be terribly hard to deal with this as well as your wife's problems.
You did the right thing, your wife needs professional continual care and she will get that on the ward. People suffering from depression etc can be very selfish and don't realise that you are doing the best for them and often don't care. Remember that she is not herself and not thinking with a clear mind. You have to think of what is best for both of you and what eill get her better most quickly so that you can support each other through what must be a terrible time. I hope things get better for you.
Sometimes and I don't know how, but in my experience with my mother, she tells the doctors what they want to hear and hey just believe her even though it is not true. Make sure that when possible, you speak to whoever is in charge of her care and feedback how you think she is doing because it may be a different picture compared to the one she is painting to them.
ECT will help, and it is very positive that she is willing to try it. At least she is trying to help herself. Talking may become easier when she learns to trust her therapist. Try and persuade her to see the therapist, it will take some of the burden off you if she is able to speak to someone and work through this with a professional.
Remember that this is probably scary for her too, try to talk to her as much as you can and if at all possible take breaks from her when you can have time for yourself otherwise it can take over everything. You have been through a lot already, try and get support from family or friends for yourself.
Take care, I hope that your wife improves and life starts to look a little brighter.