See when my MIL was alive she took care of her husband with Dementia but when she passed. Her daughter took care of the Father for four years so he has suffered with Dementia for over 9 years and now i have had him for about 4 or 5 days and here is my view. i told my kids if one of use should get dementia and one of use dies, to please put me in a nursing home, I don't like what this does to a family. i guess there are some real mild cases, and i don't want anyone to quit there working career to care for me, i said come and see me once a week and bring me home one weekend every other month or so, or just on the Holidays, This illness kills the spirit i think you had, changes the way spouse react, this does something to the care taker mentally. I take my hat off to my SIL for caring for her father for 4 years with rare or no help from other family members, by SIL put up with a lot , i think she needs to heal this illness get to both the patient and the caretaker. My father in law says bad awful words all day , how do i get used to that, i am not real happy with the way things went today, its not right for my FIL and its not right for me, i will try to think of a better way to handle things after today, maybe i will give in and just let him have his way, it seems that's what it boils down too.
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