Im new to the sight. I just want any and all advice any of you can give me on how to care for my mom. Compared to some of the issues you all are dealing with, mine still seem pretty miniscule. I moved in with her and my father as his termial ilness progressed, he passed in Aug. Seems since then probably due to her grief and change in living (me and my family moved in with her to keep her surroundings familiar) she has spiraled down, and im her biggest target. I know they lash out at those closest to them. My husband recently left me because at the end of the day there was nothing left of me for him. She does not want to do anything except hold my 2 month old grandson, she makes us all feel guilty when we dont let her hold him ALL the time when he is here, which is often as I also care for him and my 3 yr old grandson fulltime. Im really getting frustrated. I try to give her little projects each day...but she doesnt want to do anything. I also try to take a little time to myself only to come home and find she tried to FIX something (business stuff that she has lost all grasp on)(ie: call the insurance co. because her car tags have expired-2010)and no of course she does not drive but she still has her car, she likes me to drive her in it. I dont think she has a clue she even has the illness. She repeats constant. She gets the notion something needs to be done, I might as well drop everything and do it, Because it will not go away. Some days she cries at the drop of a hat. Others she just negative about everything. I try to keep things as routine as I can. I have a brother closeby that is great to help, he took her last mon. for the day, but it seems when she gets out of her routine of doing nothing, things get worse for a couple of days. She gives me no personal space in the home, It is her house. I know she really lashed out at my father and he tried to prepare me but its so hard. My biggest issue is her and her $. She has no grasp on her finances, she always wants to give the kids money and buy everything. She will get very angry at me if I try to interveign but we dont want her paying for everything and just handing out her $ to anyone for anything. My dad left her very comfortable. But she may need those funds if and when the time comes I cant care for her. As you all know these are only a few of the daily delimmas. Any advice or ideas would be great.
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