I am married and my mother in law had a stroke last year and my father in law has Alzheimer's. We moved here to help my mother in law with my father in law before she had her stroke. Ever since we moved here, I have hated it and feel homesick everyday. Since my mother in law had her stroke, it has gotten worse. We had them in assisted living for 10 months and it was bearable then, because we could visit and be family, but then leave. Well, my mother in law was so unhappy and money was starting to get tight, so we allowed them to move back into their house. She is highly functioning on a daily basis, but we still have to do all their banking, shopping, medication management, everything. I am becoming to resent it terribly. I am only in my thirties, and feel that the good time in my life is passing me by. My parents are both gone already, so I didn't think I would be dealing with this. My sister (the only relative I have left) is 400 miles away in our home town and I want to move back to be with her since she just had my only nephew. I don't want to miss all these things. I miss all my friends, I am just terribly homesick. My husband said he would move too as long as we could figure out someone to go help his mom and dad on a daily basis and he/we could come up once a month and visit. The problem is that my mother in law will not allow anyone else in her home and says, "If we are that much of a burden to you, just give me my pills and let us stay here to die" Obviously we don't want that, but the stress is becoming too much in our marriage and I feel something is going to snap soon if we can't figure something out... Does anyone have any suggestions?
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