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Dementia is the progressive decline in cognitive function due to damage or disease in the brain beyond what might be expected from normal aging. Particularly affected areas may be memory, attention, language and problem solving, although particularly in the later stages of the condition, affected persons may be disoriented in time, place and person (not knowing who they...
Please, I don't know what to do for myself here. That might sound selfish, but I know what to do for my husband. Just keep things as they have been. Try to ignore the 50's southern slant on racism and pray that a lot of people forgive him when I can't avoid taking him out with me.
My problem is that his racism is driving me nuts! His strong beliefs on totally unreal things is throwing me for a loop. Every morning I sit there for about an hour while he tells me a new thought on how things are. Yesterday it was that you would die if you slept with your head under the covers because you breath out carbon monoxide. Yes, I know it's carbon-dioxide and it won't kill you. It just doesn't make any sense correcting him because he won't believe me anyway.
This just started with him. I probably have years of this ahead of me and I have no intention of putting him in a home or hospital. How can I make myself not feel embarrassed when he starts calling people names? I want to apologize but then he gets angry and becomes the violent little 10 year old. He's not strong enough to harm me, but he could hurt himself. I just don't know what to do anymore and the VA certainly isn't helping me with someone to help ease the burden.
NO, my husband isn't a burden, his behavior, his illness is.
Sue
My problem is that his racism is driving me nuts! His strong beliefs on totally unreal things is throwing me for a loop. Every morning I sit there for about an hour while he tells me a new thought on how things are. Yesterday it was that you would die if you slept with your head under the covers because you breath out carbon monoxide. Yes, I know it's carbon-dioxide and it won't kill you. It just doesn't make any sense correcting him because he won't believe me anyway.
This just started with him. I probably have years of this ahead of me and I have no intention of putting him in a home or hospital. How can I make myself not feel embarrassed when he starts calling people names? I want to apologize but then he gets angry and becomes the violent little 10 year old. He's not strong enough to harm me, but he could hurt himself. I just don't know what to do anymore and the VA certainly isn't helping me with someone to help ease the burden.
NO, my husband isn't a burden, his behavior, his illness is.
Sue
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Redirect - keep changing the subject, always trying for something positive (altho it's hard to think of anything positive sometimes). I bet I've said "Remember when..." a thousand times, but she does tend to follow that trail to a good memory rather than staying obsessed with negative stuff. Good luck.
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
