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My father passed away on, March 23rd - Easter Sunday at 4:55 pm.
At this moment, I feel so completely out of place everywhere. I have to be strong for my mom and I don't want to burden friends or husband with my depressed feelings. But I definitely feel my body letting me know that I can't continue to bottle this up.
I don't know how my mom and I are going to deal with holidays. The next two, Mother's day and Father's day are going to be so difficult for us (and by "us" I'm including this group as well). Christmas is going to be even more difficult as my parents got married on Christmas Day 47 years ago. They met on Valentine's Day and got married on Christmas that year and were together for 47 years.
I can't even begin to imagine what my mother must be going through. How can I help her? What can I do?
I found this site, and I know that it's going to be a great help for me to find people whom I can relate with.
At this moment, I feel so completely out of place everywhere. I have to be strong for my mom and I don't want to burden friends or husband with my depressed feelings. But I definitely feel my body letting me know that I can't continue to bottle this up.
I don't know how my mom and I are going to deal with holidays. The next two, Mother's day and Father's day are going to be so difficult for us (and by "us" I'm including this group as well). Christmas is going to be even more difficult as my parents got married on Christmas Day 47 years ago. They met on Valentine's Day and got married on Christmas that year and were together for 47 years.
I can't even begin to imagine what my mother must be going through. How can I help her? What can I do?
I found this site, and I know that it's going to be a great help for me to find people whom I can relate with.
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Thank you so much for your response. I can't imagine what you must feel on your birthday. I know that time is a healer.
You are completely right about everything you said. Today, I spent it with my mom and husband and I was talking to my mom about my weight loss and about random stuff when she began to cry. I hugged her and when she asked me about how I felt I tried to be strong but when I began to talk about my feelings I completely lost it. It was a complete mixture of feelings from pain, sorrow, anger that have been bottled up.
Well, once again, thank you so much for your words, they really do help.
I'm sending you a hug back.
Yaneth
My Daddy passed 14 months ago. I can tell you we made it through each first holiday and anniversary. Each one is 24 hours. That's all. Be there for each other. You can also be on this board on those days writing your heart out. You can tell everyone that the anniversary is tomorrow or today and they will be there for you, because we KNOW. My parents were together more than 50 years. I lit a candle for my Dad in a church on the anniversary of his passing. I cried but it was also humorous. My husband and I spent so much time deciding what saint to light the candle near. That is so like my Dad - and Mom. Just wanting it to be perfect for the person they are honoring. He is always here with me. I believe that if you can reach out to others, you can make it.
Wednesday will be a month since my dad passed - I call him "Papi". I find myself weaker as time passes.
Kacs xx
I to can't imagine what she must be going through, as the pain that I feel seems huge she must be overwhelmed. I have told her that when she is with me to not hold back any emotions that she might feel. I tell her to cry, yell, or whatever might help her.