Hi Everyone. I need help. My sister and I live in Colorado and my mother lives in Michigan. My mom has been in the hospital for the passed 6 weeks...on a ventilator for 2, 2 in the hospital and 2 in rehab. She came home 3 days ago (2/4/09) and now has 24 hour per day home health care. My sister and I have been flying back almost every week but we are both self employeed in Colorado and I have 2 kids and one on the way and am not going to be able to travel very much longer due to pregnancy and finances. Since my mom has been sick, she has been very mean to her family and friends and now does not have any kind of support network. Here is my problem. Although my mom sounds coherant and intelligent in the way she talks, she is often very confused. However, the only ones that can tell are my sister and myself. For example, she will tell everyone that she is going to visit her mother. We are the only ones that know her mother has been dead for 20 years. She does know the day of the week, president etc...all the questions the doctors ask. Her home health care is costing us $8000 per month and now, in her confusion, my mom is spending money like water on her credit cards buy useless stuff on QVC etc all day long....spending thousands of dollars she does not have. She has also been trying to give away cash to all the home health care aids $500 at a time!! I've been trying to talk to her about coming out to Colorado at least during her recouperation so that I can take care of her, help her with her finances etc. However, she won't hear of it. I don't know how to take care of her from this far away. She doesn't have any type of a patient advocate to go to the doctor with her, make sure she is getting the proper care from the home health care people etc and to make sure she is making competant financial decisions. She is already starting to cancel her follow up doctors appointments for next week stating that she doesn't need to go. She is convenced that all her problems are because her thyroid medicine is off. I've gone so far as to try to get power of attorney but because she sounds competant and can answer the doctors questions we can't get power of attorney. I would appreciate any advice you may have on how to handle this situation. Thanks! Anne
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