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I have an Auntie who is a lezbian and has a long term partner. I was going to tell her first about my sexuality, but I didn't really know how to start the conversation and I didn't really want tell her over the phone because she lives hours away. And now we've found out he has cancer and everybody is coming down to see him. Do I ask her when she comes to see her father or do I leave it alone for a while?? I mean my problem doesn't seem to important next grandpa's, and she might not want here or deal with anything else right now because her dad is sick. Any advice would be great! xx
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
That's what I did to my friend who's a lesbian.
Re: your Aunt. She might really be distracted, depending on who is having to take care of what details regarding his illness and whether or not this appears to be a final illness. Not that she wouldn't want to give you her time, she may simply have a lot on her plate.
I think Searching... gave you good advice. Let your Auntie know that you need to connect with her, but perhaps leave it to her as to when she can give you her best attention.
When my mother's youngest sister died this summer I saw cousins at the funeral I hadn't seen in 30+ years. Despite the sad nature of the reunion there was still some time to connect - and not all of those cousins knew I was gay. I had some fairly deep convesrations with a couple of them.
Be there for your family, support them in any way you can. Do the dishes, drive the car, watch the little ones, make the breakfast. Hug them. Keep an eye on the one who has trouble coping, say something kind to the one with bags under his eyes. Be present. You may find some odd close moment when it's right to talk about it.
At least, I have found that this has been true in my family. Perhaps you will too.
Peace,
Brian