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uh... Well... I came out as a bisexual... But I'm increasingly losing my interest in the opposite sex... I don't know how to tell people... and I have a boyfriend who would be crushed if I broke up with him... I'm not sure if my mom would appreciate the fact that I think I'm a lesbian... b/c she doesn't even really like the fact that I'm bisexual...

I don't know... I need help....
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i know it's hard but you can live your life for others!!
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First off...as for your boyfriend...would it be better if you led him on? (btw the correct answer is no :-p) Tell him...it's better to end it before things get out of hand ya know?

As for your mom...does any mother really appreciate the idea of their kids being gay? I mean think about it this way, being gay is a much more difficult lifestyle in their eyes. They simply want you to have the easiest, happiest life possible. If you are sure you're a lesbian then she'll understand eventually. Whether she says she does or not is another story...

Have you ever seen Brokeback Mountain? If so remember the scene where Ennis goes to see Jack's parents? Jack never told his parents he was bi but you could tell his mom knew. She just wanted what was best for Jack and that's what all moms want for their kids.
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Live your life as if it belongs to you...
thats about all that i can say other then good luck!
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I am going through this exact situation myself-as hard as it may be in thend telling your bf is the best or he might feel used or end up not liking you for misplacing his trust in you-it's always best if you can keep your friends-it is extremely difficult yes-I haven't even got to telling my parents yet-you are who you are and no one can change that whether they like it or not-always try to be honest with yourself and others
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i just left my bf of 2 years bc i realized that i am not bi but lesbian. its taken me YEARS to get to this place of peace and clarity. yes, its still scary and hard but also, it takes a huge amount of emotional effort to live your life for the sake of other people's feelings all the time. i was married, divorced and was constantly trying to create the 'perfect' life that people would approve of and applaud me for in some way.
f*&k it. follow your heart and be true to yourself. otherwise, its not even your life anymore.
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Follow your heart. Do what is best for you. The longer you hide who you are...the deeper you hurt people who think they already know you. Be honest.
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