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Torn

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I joke a lot on posts. I guess it's my way of coping with my issues-comedy in tragedy. But ... i swear it really sucks not knowing your sexuality. What's worse is that I'm probably the epitome of introversion when it comes to real life. Outside of the internet world...i tell no one, nothing. I'm already the black sheep of the family. And theyre so conservative that I have no doubt in my mind that they'd burn me at the stake if they ever found out that I'm attracted to women.
But am I a lesbian? I'm also attracted to men. Am I straight? Bi? How can I ever find out if Im afraid to open up to people in the way that I do here? I can't. It scares me to open up. It has always ended up in heartbreak for me. *sigh* this sucks. I'm not sexually frustrated. I've got reaaallly low self-esteem and I know that until I learn to love myself, i'll never be able to let anyone love me. I just wanna know who I am. How can I love myself...how can anyone love anyone without knowing what they're about?
Damn I'm so confused. I hope this made sense. I'd appreciate anyone's two cents on this. Thank you.
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I can totally understand that. Acording to me, if you're attracted to the same sex, then you're gay. It's that simple. Are you afraid you may be misunderstanding your feelings? Maybe you're bi, idk.

But i've been there and it it horrible. Just promise yourself one thing: that you will not hate yourself for any decision made.
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well since you have just come to this point in your life try not to be too hard on yourself-it's a new thing and first you need to take the time to think calmly about things because if your confused and stressing over it it will be harder to consentrate and think clearly-and always remeber this-and some people don't and feel trappexd because of it-just because you may pick a path as gay/bi/straight doessn't mean you have to stay that way for life-I have known a couple people who were gay but eventually they decided they weren't anymore and it's ok-however they felt guilty because they would feel like the were "turning their backs on the gay community" which in fact is not the case-if you ever decide to change your mind by all means do so-and if you want to change it again do it-be what you are for every moment in time-don't stress yourself-you'll figure it out

Dante~
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