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I'm so confused. I'm at war with myself. Yes, having a slight identity crisis. It's funny, because I was so proud of myself for comming to terms that I swing both ways. Then suddenly, i wasn't comfortable with that fact.
I was totally okay with liking girls, and I don't know if its because the reality haden't sunk in, or because it was just an idea, but now i'm not so okay with it. What are people going to think? what are my friends going to think? I feel so alone, I don't know who to like and who likes me. I don't know anything!
I know i've said this before, but with men I was always the expereinced one. I had done the most. And now i don't know what the hell is going on and how I am suppose to act- and there is no one there to tell me. I want to tell my Best friend (who is an adult) so badly, but i'm so afraid she will think its a faze. I think secretly I'm worried that it's a faze too. What if it is? then i will feel really stupid.
It's like puberty all over again! And i have to tell you in sucked the first time, but atleast every other girl was going through it. I'm not homophobic one bit. And i fully support anyone who choses that life style, i Just don't know if I can support it for myself. I feel... wrong. And it's not wrong at all, I know that. But when i think about myself with another women I feel like i'm doing something wrong.
I hate not knowing, I always have to know. When i don't know I feel vulnerable- scared. And I really just need someone to take me under their wing and tell me it's gonna be okay. I've been imagining telling my friend all day, but I just don't know how to do it. I want to so badly, because I know that she will know what to do- she always does. I just don't know if I can face the emberassment if it does turn out to just be a faze.
Well, now that I've barred my soul to you... I feel Guilty. Is this normal!?
I was totally okay with liking girls, and I don't know if its because the reality haden't sunk in, or because it was just an idea, but now i'm not so okay with it. What are people going to think? what are my friends going to think? I feel so alone, I don't know who to like and who likes me. I don't know anything!
I know i've said this before, but with men I was always the expereinced one. I had done the most. And now i don't know what the hell is going on and how I am suppose to act- and there is no one there to tell me. I want to tell my Best friend (who is an adult) so badly, but i'm so afraid she will think its a faze. I think secretly I'm worried that it's a faze too. What if it is? then i will feel really stupid.
It's like puberty all over again! And i have to tell you in sucked the first time, but atleast every other girl was going through it. I'm not homophobic one bit. And i fully support anyone who choses that life style, i Just don't know if I can support it for myself. I feel... wrong. And it's not wrong at all, I know that. But when i think about myself with another women I feel like i'm doing something wrong.
I hate not knowing, I always have to know. When i don't know I feel vulnerable- scared. And I really just need someone to take me under their wing and tell me it's gonna be okay. I've been imagining telling my friend all day, but I just don't know how to do it. I want to so badly, because I know that she will know what to do- she always does. I just don't know if I can face the emberassment if it does turn out to just be a faze.
Well, now that I've barred my soul to you... I feel Guilty. Is this normal!?
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something like that happened to me too. i thought it was a faze at first..but i got close to a girl and then i realized im just more attracted to girls than guys. i still attracted to guys. it is a difficult place to be in. it doesnt help that i go to a lutheran school. that made me THINK it was wrong just the constant pressure of being someone they wanted me to be. you shouldnt feel guilty. it seems like thats who you are. i know its hard to admit. im out to my two best friends and that support is amazing to have and it took me one year just to like get the guts to actually say that im bi. do you have any friends that support gay people? and that are close enough to you that they'll keep your secret? do you have any gay friends? it was easy coming out to one of my friends because he's bi too. i hope this helped. just message me if you want to talk more. before i told anyone i just wished someone was there that knew the feelings that i had at that moment...hopefully i can help
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I've been going through a similar phase of questioning just in the past month. I'm currently with my first girlfriend and I feel really nervous about it considering I had always been the experienced one in my relationships with guys as well. Through my personal experience, things will become a little clearer with time, but until then, it's best to accept that you're confused and not try to force your sexuality into a completely defined box. That's the advice from my friend that helped me the most. I wish you the best of luck.
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