Ben,

I don't know what your school as a whole is like but there are school counselors there who must keep what you tell them in confidence. I would suggest you consider that as your first point of contact. If they can't help you directly they can help you find resources to help you to understand and talk about what you are going through. Good luck baby.

thanks alot

You don't NEED to come out to everyone, just those who are important to you. The people who care about you will always care about you, no matter what.

I felt the same way...I'm from a little school in West Virginia...out in the sticks and hills..rednecks abound...I came out and everyone supported me. It was an unexpected relief I assure you. Of course my graduating class has 33 people in it...

Don't think that cause your school "appears" anti-gay, that it really is...it might be the most gay friendly school ever!

well you don't have to run around telling everyone after all there are some people that just won't give damn either way-I think talking to your friends is the best-for the moment if there really is no need to be telling your father or grandparents I would say just leave it be

I thought for a long time that my school is anti-gay because almost everyone around is EXTREMELY religious. But after a while my best friend came out and after a while after that another friend of mine came out, and then I figured out I was gay and after a while I found out my other friend was gay. (it was really weird b/c they were like my only friends and we all turned out to be gay) Anyway if you have one friend that understands than yes that is really great but that basically is all you need. If that friend is supportive enough then when others find out then your friend can back you up if things go badly. If your friend is really supportive what is to say that others may be supportive as well. I hope this helps.

Omg! i know how you feel ive came out to my parents and a realy close friend, and i realy want to come out too, but in my case i have a little brother and i live in the mormon capital of the world da da da *utah* so its not realy accepted in alot of the state but any way if i came out my sure i would get teased rejected blah blah blah but it would so be worth it. but my brother would get teased in school by kids and i dont want that happening to him so...ya. but in your case, you should come out, first it would make you feel so much better and you wont get that sinking feeling in your stomache when you tell someone your gay.... and in the case with my friend alex when he came out like 3 guys in his school asked him out, and no one even knew they were gay but since he came out they felt the could trust him... but im done so take what i say and do with it what you will but i wish you the best in your situation no matter what you choose.
w/? jake

Hey There Ben,

I think that your intentions are good and that you're sick of hiding who you are, but don't rush anything.

Suggestions:
Start with maybe some hypotheticalls for family and friends, see how they would react. This is sometimes good but by all means not accurate.

Try to see what their true positions are, talk to them, and make sure you know them 100% if they love you they will support you, especially family.

Resolve:
Once you've picked your time to come out, if you do or don't is fine, then its time to tell your dad. The best way would probably be to get him alone and talk to him like a man, most fathers respect that, even if you are gay. And if you don't think this will work wait to you get older, if you're really gay it's not going to go away. Heh

hope I helped.

I'm in the same position as you. I recently came out at my Catholic high school and to my parents. Its tough. They aren't going to understand. You just have to keep pushing forward and try to make things work. In this you can truly see who your freinds are. I wish you the best of luck and remember you're never alone.
It may not sound like it but in the end its worth it. And no its not false hope if you come out some others will too. Good luck :]

I just wanna say THANK YOU SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO much for the advice. i have just come out to half my class and there all fine with it except one guy..... read my journal for more info