Coming Out Support Group

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Free now to be me...

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The part that bothers me a bit about coming out is having to end certain relationships. The people that "weren't ok" with my choice. Have have your experiences been? I still have some negative feedback from some, but that will be for the rest of my life. Does feel so good to not worry, or double guess my actions. How much different is your life now?
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All of my friends have been really good about it. The only problem was i knew that my best guy friend liked me and i felt really bad when i told him. As for my life beeing different it isnt that much (but i havent told the family yet) i just feel like i am n longer lying to my friends.
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its kind of hard to say for me... after a lil while i came out i had to go back in, just the fact was (literally) killing my mother

and afterwards everyon just pretended like i never said anything... it pisses me off a whole lot now that i think about it...
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it hurts and sucks because the people you thought really loved you unconditionally and no matter what - have now shown ignorance and turned their back. however, just know that they weren't meant to be if that is how they react and that there is a WHOLE new terrific group of supporters out there for you as you will find while you live life!!
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My life is dramatically different. I was one of those worst-case-scenario closet cases... I lost a lot of "friends"...note the quotations, as they weren't really friends to me. I was blessed by the change; I never really knew the true meaning of a friend until meeting my current ones. Most of them I found on campus through the LBGT support group; they are the type of people that can truly understand you, know up front who you are, and they can help you become more comfortable in the community! My old cronies were just people to pass the time with; the ones I found after coming out are my family.
So, for me the difference has meant the world!
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At first coming out was the single most terrifying thing I ever did. I was afraid for total strangers to even wonder "is she?". Much less the horror of telling my devoutly southern baptist Christian family or circle of "friends". I was just sure I was the only gay person on the whole planet! I can laugh aboout it now, after 20+ years of adjusting. I agree with lesbianmom & Mahadra it is devestating to have those who you thought loved you unconditionally turn their backs and make judgments. But the joy that comes from the freedom of allowing yourself to be true is incomparable. And you really do find new friends who accept you for who you are. It is an immeasurable loving extended family.
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