I'm not on Facebook, DS is the closest I am to being on something like that. That's a deliberate choice: public school teacher here - I don't want my students to have access to so much information about my private life.

I think this was probably one of my biggest concerns... exactly just how "out" do I want to be.
With certain people I feel pretty comfortable. But even with some people on my friends list, I just really won't talk about it, I guess because they're pretty straight and it's just an area that doesn't call for much discussion between us.

My profile says both in interested section, I'm in a relationship with a friend of mine who is female, about half the people on my list freaked put and stopped talking too me. Yet I have buttons, stickers and various other applications showing I'm bi, I'm more lesbian than bi, and they don't notice that. I've never come out and said it though.

i've left my "interested in" section empty, and have joined several groups supporting gay rights and stuff, and some of my applications have pro-gay content i added, but its not visible unless you actually look at the apps (such as pieces of flair). sometime i want to put women for interested in, but i know a lot of my friends would really be weirded out, since they are very religious, some of them are missionaries, and others muslim, etc. i have a lot of different friends from different backgrounds because i've lived in a lot of different countries, and i don't want to offend anyone or anything... i want to out myself on facebook, but i don't want to lose my friends :(

Thank you everyone for your replies, I have restricted my profile so that only friends can see it and I flat out will not accept any friend requests from anyone under 18 so I am assuming that students will not see the interests in my profile.

I dont come right out and say Im bi but there sure are a lot of signs , fan of HRC Pages, Equal rights quotes , references to MILK etc. The thing is I really now want to be myself. I am committed that new friends I make going forward will like me for who I am and so if they are going to have a problem with their friend being bi Id rather find out sooner rather then later, I figure facebook is a way to avoid any surprises later.

I also hope to get some "me to" s from other bisexuals who are keeping their orientation secret but might be willing to come out to me if they know Im one of them.

I have already made one connection with a real world friend that I had no idea he was gay until we shared a Facebook account and saw each others profiles. So Im seeing how it can work and Im liking it. Im not the type to run around waving the bi/ rainbow flag but like many I find an online presence seems less in your face and more so here is another interesting thing about me. I would never walk up to some one at a cocktail party and say Hi Im Mark and Im bi and we dont have a secret handshake so Im just trying to find ways to make the invisible visible and am thinking Facebook might be a way.

Thanks again for your replies.
Mark

My "interested in" on facebook/myspace goes from "Men" to "empty" depending on if I really am in the mood to be bothered with relationship drama in my life at the moment or not. I have a bunch of pro-gay groups, shared links and such & it's not an issue for me about "being out" or not (anyone who really knows me already knows, and I'm not ashamed of it regardless), more of a comment on my willingness to deal with another round of bullshit or not. (shrug)

This is a concern of mine as well. I have my "interested in" tab left blank. I am also a fan of HRC, but I think that's the extent of my GLBT info. I'm out to a couple friends, but most other friends and family don't know, and I don't want it to be through Facebook, though it would be easier.

On my facebook profile it says that I'm interested in both men and women... but I was already out to a lot of people when I got facebook. One of my best friends didn't know until she saw my facebook page and she got kind of offended that I hadn't told her in person, but it ended up working out all right!

i finally just decided to change mine to both men and women rather than blank. but my profile is only viewable by friends. the only concern is the family who can see it, but i figure it's who i am, so why hide...

Deep down inside Id love to check both. As a 54 year old married man though I have some concerns that even my friends who know Im bisexual might think that was a little too out. As a new facebook user I would hate to start having a whole bunch of people become not friends. My groups make it clearer then my fan pages and I have the groups limited on all but my most out list of friends, Its been helpful to hear everyone's thoughts, Thanks Mark