Coming Out Support Group
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So I've decided to come out to the family before I have someone important in my life. I came out to another friend recently and told her that I planned to wait til I had a steady girlfriend, but she said that would be really unfair to my parents. She said that I should tell them before I'm with anyone, that way they could be used to it by the time I had a girlfriend, and they would be more comfortable with her hanging around.
But I'm terrified. Both of my parents are alright with homosexuality. Even my gun-toting, Bible-thumping, card-carrying Republican Dad believes it's something you're born with that you can't help. My Mom always had me around her gay best friend growing up and explained to me at a very early age what it meant to be gay. I know they're alright with homosexuals.
But I don't know if they'll be alright with ME being a lesbian. I'm afraid that if they have a bad reaction, I'll just go back to being "straight". I don't want to go through all of that again.
So here are my options:
1. Tell them now and get it over with and out in the open.
2. Wait until I have someone worth telling them about.
3. Wait until I'm at my new college and moved out.
2 is just not an option anymore.
I feel like telling them will make being a lesbian feel like something dirty.
But I'm terrified. Both of my parents are alright with homosexuality. Even my gun-toting, Bible-thumping, card-carrying Republican Dad believes it's something you're born with that you can't help. My Mom always had me around her gay best friend growing up and explained to me at a very early age what it meant to be gay. I know they're alright with homosexuals.
But I don't know if they'll be alright with ME being a lesbian. I'm afraid that if they have a bad reaction, I'll just go back to being "straight". I don't want to go through all of that again.
So here are my options:
1. Tell them now and get it over with and out in the open.
2. Wait until I have someone worth telling them about.
3. Wait until I'm at my new college and moved out.
2 is just not an option anymore.
I feel like telling them will make being a lesbian feel like something dirty.
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oh and i vote number 1 :)
My best advice for you is to tell those that you know will support you first, like you did with your friend and make sure that if the worst case scenario occurs you have a back up. I.e. if you get kicked out of the house, you'll have a place to stay at your supportive friend's place. Though it sounds to me like you won't need that, but it never hurts to be prepared.
The most important thing is to believe in yourself, to breathe and to do it calmly and with care. It's hard for a parent to find this out. Hard but not impossible...
Liz