
Coming Out Support Group
This community is dedicated to the challenges that gay men and lesbian women face, both between the partners in a relationship and from other influences (family, society, etc.). Find support and talk to others who may be facing the same challenges, and share your experience.

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What if your parents want answers that you can't give them? My parents always ask how do you know? I cant tell them that I had a relationship with a girl. They'd kill me cuz I wasnt suposed to see her. Or they'll just say "you dont know what love is". Thats just the kind of people they are. So what do I tell them? I just know, its who I am?
Helppppp!! Please.
Helppppp!! Please.
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Well, yes. But to support that statement you could impress them with some vocabulary, like:
Proprioception (PRO-pree-oh-SEP-shun)
I love this word, and not just because it is fun to say. Proprioception is the body's way of knowing where it is in space without having to look.
In other words, proprioception is why you know where your feet are - you just feel them at the ends of your legs. On the floor, over the arm of the chair, in your socks and sandals (oh, okay, maybe YOU won't feel them there!)
Being LGBT, in my opinion, is like that. It's how you feel your response to the gender that attracts you. You really have no control over it, it is how your body and emotions respond- that's how you know.
When I was first coming out I used to explain it by saying - "well, I don't know for SURE if I'm gay, but I know what makes my heart pound!"
I don't know if this is helpful enough - what I'm trying to give you here are the words to say how organic this self-knowledge is. It doesn't depend so much on your experience of love or even physical experience of sex. It is about your understanding of how and what it is you feel, and what it is that makes you feel that way.
good luck!
Brian
Brian pretty much covered the bases, heh. Good job. I think that if you listen to him everything will go okay, too bad I couldn't get here before him. Heh :D
Lots of love,
Mahadra