Colon Cancer Support Group
Colorectal cancer, also called colon cancer or bowel cancer, includes cancerous growths in the colon, rectum and appendix. Many colorectal cancers are thought to arise from mushroom-like growths that are usually benign, but some may develop into cancer over time. The majority of the time, the diagnosis of localized colon cancer is through colonoscopy.
My mother was diagnosed with colon cancer in September, 2010. She started chemo (FOLFOX or FOLFIRI, not sure which) but ended up in the ICU for 2.5 weeks around Thanksgiving and hasn't had treatment since. She lives with my Dad in central Wisconsin, while I am in Colorado.
I feel completely helpless. They don't want to burden my with details, and the lack of them is killing me. I have been a diagnosed and treated chronic depressive most of my life, and it is out of control now. Obviously, I am hiding it from Mom, as she has enough n her plate. But I feel like every time I call I am intruding. She and Dad have seemingly created a cocoon around themselves, and I feel like an intruder. Getting information from them is like pulling teeth. I want desperately to go home and see her, as I miss her so, but whenever I suggest it, I get rebuffed. They say, you are welcome any time, but you [don't have the leave time, need to be with Alex (my 3 year old), are so busy, etc].
Should I leave them alone? Do I stop sending them the information I find? I will do whatever helps the most, no matter the cost, financially or emotionally, but I am at a loss...
Please help- even sharing what you would like or would have liked would help. I'm desperate.
I feel completely helpless. They don't want to burden my with details, and the lack of them is killing me. I have been a diagnosed and treated chronic depressive most of my life, and it is out of control now. Obviously, I am hiding it from Mom, as she has enough n her plate. But I feel like every time I call I am intruding. She and Dad have seemingly created a cocoon around themselves, and I feel like an intruder. Getting information from them is like pulling teeth. I want desperately to go home and see her, as I miss her so, but whenever I suggest it, I get rebuffed. They say, you are welcome any time, but you [don't have the leave time, need to be with Alex (my 3 year old), are so busy, etc].
Should I leave them alone? Do I stop sending them the information I find? I will do whatever helps the most, no matter the cost, financially or emotionally, but I am at a loss...
Please help- even sharing what you would like or would have liked would help. I'm desperate.
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
I couldn't possibly advise as I don't know your relationship with your family. My 25 year old lives an hour by flight and my then 11 year old stayed much of the time during treatment with my mom. I didn t want to upset them with my appearance, they are little rocks and they didn't do too well. But looking back it calmed everyone to be together and get brought up to speed. My mom was very difficult to have around, she wasn't educated in the topic and she just pushed her advice on me, that was not welcome. But, I loved having my daughter come visit. At one point I was very sick and she was just what the doctor ordered. I also think it is harder to be far away worrying. I would go.
I agree with mpnc!! GO!!! Don't put it off and then deal with the "I should have's". I also don't know the details of you and your family's past, not my business, but I do know that sometimes we don't have that second chance. Praying for your strength and hoping all goes as you wish (((hugs))))...survivor : )
Also, this site has support groups for depression. You might find some support there as well.
I hope all goes well for you and your family. And the 2 replies ahead of mine said, follow your heart and go.