College Stress Support Group
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So its my first semester in college. I started out the year ok...i managed my time well or I thought I did. I ended up getting sick with some other health problems and got behind. I was finally getting all caught up in my classes when something came over me to start partying whenever it was presented to me. I am now behind on papers for my english class...A midterm that has already been put off for me and I have to make up a test in my math class. What I need is for someone to kick my ass into gear because I can't do it myself. What can I do...i'm getting stressed out
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
Behavior
Consequence
The struggle you are experiencing is an opportunity for you to demonstrate to YOURSELF that you want to:
get an education,
learn,
grow,
earn a degree you can be proud of,
be more than a burger flipper,
and that you want the education because YOU want it.
The people you party with are not interested in whether or not you get your degree. Ask a few of the people you party with if they are doing what they need to do to succeed in classes. If they are, then ask them how they make time to party. If they are not, then perhaps you need new friends.
You can be committed to the commitment of partying, but where will that put you in five years.
You can be committed to the commitment of succeeding in school, and where will that put you in five years.
What do you want?
When you want something, then the:
Antecedent is the vision of the goal
Behavior is directed toward the goal
Consequence is the feelings of accomplishing what you wanted (even if you wanted to party)
Right now the vision you have is short term, fun with friends. The behavior is party and neglect school--which blocks your goal to party. The consequence is the feelings of accomplishing partying.
If you want to accomplish something more important, then change your vision, make it long term (the behavior and consequences will follow).
Getting rid of distractions is the best thing you can do really. I guess it's time to learn to kick your own ass into gear. You could also use the rewards system.
Frustrating as all hell.