I'm a virgin too. I think that you shouldn't go and look for it, when you find that special someone you are going to want to give him your gift. If you go searching for it you might find someone that doesn't really care about it. You should be in love. Thats my opinion at least. I hope that helps a little bit. God Bless.

are u feeling hormonal urges? Or do want an emotional connection as well?

I'm feeling hormonal urges, and the need for a connection. I'm unsure which one i want more than the other.

you should wait until the time is right, you'll feel it when it is, but don't let your hormones guide you, i wish i was still a virgin

I agree, you should wait until the time is right.

there are things you can do to control your hormonal urges, so don't worry about that so much. ;)

besides, I believe sex should be saved for marriage anyway. There are things you can do to control your hormonal urges so I would stuck to those for now.

Stand tall and be proud to be a virgin!!

I wish I was. I was myself until my first divorce, then I slept around between my first and second divorce from different girls of course. I haven't had sex in either one of my marriages, mostly because of issues being rapped as a child as well.

I desire it just like anyone else, but I figure, I am worth it! I am worth saving myself for that special person :)

i lost my virginity at 14 to a guy i thought i loved... he turned out to be a heroin addict that was using me... while i dont necessarily believe you should wait until marriage, i do believe you should wait for love; don't have sex with some random guy just for kicks. moral of the story: try to wait for love, but if you cant for whatever reason, BE CAREFUL!

I also did not lose my virginity voluntarily as I was raped in high school. It definately changed how I viewed sex. Part of how I dealt with it was to make sex an unimportant and not special thing. It sounds like you sort of value sex the same way that I do. I can tell you that sleeping with people when you don't truely care about them may satisfy those hormones, but it'll hurt you in other ways. You may not like yourself as much or you may not be ready for the emotions that sex just seems to have attached to it. If I could go back, I'd change a lot of my behavior. My advice to you is to buy some sort of toy or do it manually. Take care of your hormonal needs yourself. Wait until you care deeply if not love someone before you sleep with them (and it also helps if they care or love you back). It'll make sex a much better experience. It won't be just sex, it'll be something that matters.

well, it seems like you want both. I would recommend finding a relationship, rather than a "booty call." because with sex, you get this connection, but with booty calls you only get the sex. With a relationship, you get both.