In the past I've had many disappointments with my Dear Son (John) when he has told me he will help me do something and doesn't. Yesterday was a perfect example, I did good though by not getting all over him. I picked him up and we had lunch, that was fine. Then went on some errands prior to coming home that were on my way...I asked and he did help me with getting a bag of mulch into my car. Also upon arriving at home he got the mulch where I asked as well as a 20lb bag of bird seed.
In the car, he was yawning, put back the car seat and becoming more and more tired, expressing more tired...where he lives, it's sleep, computer and eating for his daily activity. By the time he got mulch/bird seed/his stuff from the car, he was huffing and puffing, then Crashed onto the couch....that was the begining of a ""3hr"" nap lasting until around 4:30pm. No words of being lazy or protest, just kept quiet and said 'you had a good sleep...better'..."yes".
Next avoidance came with "having to show me parrot videos, which I did laugh my head off to the point of snorting laughter, that was fun that I had with him....still I felt sad that the popcorn and loaf of bread we were supposed to bring to the beach to feed sea gulls never happened...still the laughter is good https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JEPZ5oXw2bw, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ort9AXz_SEs .
In the end I made the decision to let go of trying to get John to bring up some furniture upstairs to my 'not so horrid' room...next time...and I said this will give me more time to de-clutter and clean...Not get on him for not doing as he said he would. I'm pleased with how the day went, and we made plans for me to pick him up on Thursday...this will too help him to get to a social activity...I hope.
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