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I promise you if you take several deep breaths before you yell it will calm you and you can speak in a normal tone! You get allot more with honey,, remember this!
Hugs to ya from an ex-yeller!
My daughter is now the yellar and my son. I find my daughter yells at my grandaughter and it makes me want to cry. If this does not teach me to quiet myself nothing will. I want nothing more than for this beautiful child to have a different way of life than I had and my daughter and son had. Train yourself to talk, its a hard pattern to break but it can be done. For me its especially hard when someone is yelling at me and I want my own point to be heard.
One day at a time. We are all a work in progress.
What I do when I feel like yelling: I think of my throat as relaxing, a relaxed throat is happy - a lot of yoga and meditation techniques have helped. remember be patient with yourself nobody is perfect
Realizing the harm and pain you cause to people who are subjected to your behavior when you yell goes a long way in helping you stop. It will get easier when you realize yelling doesn't get you anywhere.
Whats really funny is when I yell, no one listens. Such a waste of time.
I am working on it. At least I am aware and can stop myself when I am doing it.
whisper instead. that gets attention.
yelling gets tuned out. and it's intimidating.
What I needed to learn and it can be a very very hard thig to do is "DETACH" yourself from the situation.
My best to you.
Then not too long ago I started yelling...loudly and even cussing! Because I finally started standing up for myself...and I wanted to be heard. I wanted to be heard...and felt it couldn't happen unless I yelled. And I guess I yelled mostly for my benefit...because maybe I, too would hear it.
When I get yell crazy, out of control, for me there's a boundary being crossed somewhere...or I'm afraid or hurt.
Prayer is the only thing that helps me. I get on my knees until I've cried it out and can figure out why I'm so upset. I used to not do it...because it requires a meekness and vulnerability...and I didn't trust God. Hell, didn't trust anybody...
As far as yelling at kids. I don't do it unless they're about to stab someone or run in front of a car. If they are being bad or disobeying...I do what Chrurop does. It does work beautifully!