I came from aback ground of critizm, judgement, verbal abuse, etc. I have been married for 20yrs. and I have come to the place that I can not seem to cope with any form of the above listed. I can't stand it when people do these things to others or when they do them to me. I usually withdraw from the person/persons who come across with judgement or condemnation. I withdraw to the point that I don't want them to touch me, or to get too close to me. I can sit and have a conversation, with them, but it's usually dry and to the point. while I don't really believe this is normal, I just can't help myself. The withdrawal seems to be worse if the person that pushes my button has had a history of doing so. I just need some advice on whats going on with me. I will say this, I feel like I married my mother. He has changed A LOT, but I just can't seem to warm up to him. Sometimes I feel as if I lowering my wall but then he will have a set back and start his judgement again. I know he has issues too but I'v never been as good with pretending that they don't exsist as he is????
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