Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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HEY ALL

Im seeing a therapist at the moment for my issues!! and today we talked about love, respect, honesty!! i dont have much of that with my boyfriend!! i feel so drawn into him!! y do.............. this is so not good. Ive neva enjoyed sex with anyone like this.. is itsnt forced... either. its cool. i feel good when we r physical together!! but i know this is not right!! i asked my therapist how long it wud t ake to break this cycle, he said oneday i will... wot does everyone think!
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I've been in that same boat, I'm away from it now, it feels better every day to be out. You deserve better and there are millions of other people
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I was in that situation for 2 years after my divorce and I felt the same way. Last New Year's Eve was the last time I was with him because I finally woke up and realized he was just using me. I hate that it took me that long, but after that realization, I have no feelings for him at all. I still have no luck with men, but I feel much better about myself being away from him....hang in there...it's not an easy thing to step away from. Even though it's wrong, it's security. You are on the right path questioning it....keep talking and getting support.
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So you have good sex pamela? Okay....that is only a very small part of life. What else do you feel so strongly about that is good for you? I only ask, because years ago I was aksed the same thing. I came to realize that I could not live on sex forever and would this person be a good partner for me when it REALLY counted. If something happened tomorrow where this man could no longer have sex, what could he offer you?
And if you were unable to have sex would this man stand tall beside you? Because life happens and we all need more...
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If it doesn't feel right, then maybe you should ask yourself why? Is it possible that you are being used, or are you using him? I have been in several relationships based on sex, and I have been the user and the used. In any relationship there are times when the quantity of sex is high. It is when one of the two in the relationship either loses or has a reduced sex drive, that it becomes aparent that the relationship has no other basis. This is pretty much an empty relationship, and they are usually doomed to fail. The user will ventually move on when he or she figures out that the fun is over.
The fact that he has gone outside the relationship shows that he is being the user here, and you are being used.
In the long run you are going to discover that you will need more than this in a relationship, and he is most likley not willing to provide this.
You are the only one who can change things in this situation.
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