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When to LET GO?

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I have been living with my girlfriend for almost two years. One month ago, I started counciling for Codependency. We have been having problems for about 6 months or more. I want to talk and solve the problems and she just says F..K OFF or a sorry that never solve the problem. The underlying problems keep coming back over and over and they are never solved.

When do I let go and leave? I care for her, but this is killing me. What do I do?
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You leave when you are ready to let her handle her own problems, you are ready to take care of yourself, and when you feel you are ready.
My instinct tells me, if you are asking, you may be ready.
I know it is scary. I was affraid to tell my problem to leave. You just have to find the strength and belief in yourself to do it. I don't say that lightly, either.
If she is in denial and won't address the problem(s), there is nothing you can do.
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I have been fooled by more broken promises. I give up and I am taking a walk...help someone
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I am by no means an expert, and it's easier said than done, but in my knowledge and experience, the only way to go is to set CLEAR boundaries, and follow through!! Then, you both know you are serious and it gives the other person to make choices and you a clear conscience. Good luck. It's never any fun! I am right there with you. My husband has some deadlines tomorrow he had to meet or I have to make a big move. I am praying he follows through so I don't have to!
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