Lately, I've been growing so tired of just going overboard to help others. I put my life on hold to help whoever NEEDS me with anything. I started to wonder, how come I can put the same type of energy into myself. When someone that I love has a problem, I am there, helping them get through it. However, I can't disicpline myself the same way. I started counseling 2 weeks ago and have learned that I have a codependcy problem. I have never knew this about myself and up until now thought codependncy was defined as a woman who can't be without a man. Since that was never me, I assumed I wasn't codependent. Now since I have the true definition I can see that I am codependent. Not only that but I was raised with parents who are people pleasers and I got it from them. Every relationship or friendship I've had has dealt with them needing me. I have to feel needed. I feel useful when I can help someone with there problems.. but I can't seem to help myself like I do others... Its b/c I am worn out from helping everyone else.. Can anyone recommend a good book for me?
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