I have recently acknowledged that I have been a codependent for probably 45 years stemming from emotional and physical abuse as a child in the 'baby-boomer' era. I have a wonderful spouse of 23 years that is all but out of patience for me and my conditions. We fight over the stupidest little things and then I cant stop my behavior and what I deem an attack on me. So a little fit over anything might lead to a week of me pouting and being nasty. Does anyone have any suggestions for my SPOUSE about coping skills or other distractions to help her diffuse me once I get started? I cannot seem to notice my rage when I am in the eye of the hurricane. I literally threaten divorce the second I feel attacked and that is an option I would never actually consider. I push so hard I now think my spouse is considering it. I need help for her(our) sake. I am in therapy 1-2 ties per week and have read quite a bit on the subject but I am not getting 'FIXED' fast enough to keep my wife sane!
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