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As ashamed as I am to say it, I've had a hard time trusting my GF lately. Checked up on her more times then I can say and found each and every time i was being foolish. Even so, I struggle with it because of my own insecurities. These are the issues I'm working on, and while I work on fixing me I'm taking the "as if" approach from now on. I do not recall where I read about it, bit it means you act "as if" you trust someone and use it as a tool to build yourself up. If they have given you reason in the past not to trust this may not be the best aproach, but in my situation is makes sense. I know my trust issue is not because of this person, it is because of my own insecurities.
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the only thing i can safely trust is my ability to handle what another says and does to me.
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i would say really, what trust comes down to is trusting myself, listening to my intuition. my inner wisdom. letting it flow and not blocking it.
instinctually, we know the truth, at some point. it's like a crossroads---which path are we going to take.
thanks for the topic!
just like a child learning to roller skate, we must accept that it is a process. even the best skaters fall. but the best ones don't dwell on the fall, they apply the lesson and continue to get better.
blessings!
However, I seek balance between discretion and paranoia. If I'm being paranoid, I'm acting crazy. I don't want to be crazy. Also, my nine-year old began acting extremely distrustful of people a couple years ago - way too young for that. She was carrying my stuff around. This was my biggest motivator to quit acting on my craziness. As of today - I just let it go.